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Needless to say but we’ll say it anyway: TRIGGER WARNING!! In this article, we’ll be discussing sex, masturbation, post & pre-op genitalia, as well as dysphoria in the typical Tabooless Fashion (Hint: we act like there are no taboos). So if you find yourself in a bad place today, maybe bookmark this article for later. Either way, we love you and wish you the sexiest of times!
It’s almost staggering how little information there is out there regarding trans women’s sexuality. Yet it is such an important part of gender identity.
This is especially true when it comes to masturbation & sex toys. Most women end up having to figure things out for themselves, leaving them almost entirely clueless as to where to turn. This is a real shame since dealing with dysphoria ( or your brand spanking new genitalia ) during those moments can be quite a challenge.
The lack of information can somehow be understandable since every single transition is entirely different from a person to another. So it is hard to speak for everyone considering that some folks have yet to go through with SRS or HRT if they choose to go that way at all.
And to make things even more complicated, Post-op & HRT’s results are also very unique to the individual.
Still, there are some toys that can be extremely beneficial to any trans woman, SRS, HRT or not. And these are the toys that we’ll focus on today.
So whether you’re looking for sex toys that’ll make pre-op dysphoria that much easier to deal with, or toys to enjoy post-op, you’re in the right place!
Whether they’re Pre-Op, Non-Op or Post-Op, most trans women swear by the Hitachi Magic Wand’s power. This is because the strong rumbly vibrations found on these are powerful enough to bring almost anyone to orgasm, no matter where they’re at with their transition.
Such strong low-frequency vibrations can travel through clothes and flesh, allowing you to feel them deep inside of you, no penetration required!
For the pre-op woman, being able to use it over clothing/panties is a godsend for avoiding dysphoria during masturbation. Use it from your gland to your taint and press down to feel the vibrations travel even deeper.
For the post-op woman, depending on your situation, you might find the power a bit too overwhelming to be used directly on your clitoris. But this is entirely normal for most women ( cis or not ), and using it around your clit or over your vaginal entrance can be just as effective, if not better, for those who are more sensitive.
The Magic Wand Original features only 2 very strong levels of vibration and a short 6 ft long cable, but both issues can be easily fixed. All you need is a cheap dimmer extension cord giving you more reach and gradual adjustment of the vibrations. Something that might be mandatory for the more sensitive clits.
For twice the price, the rechargeable model is cordless, featuring 4 incremental vibration strengths along with 4 different rhythmical pulsations. It is the perfect option for someone who can afford it and can’t stand the sight of cables. It can also be used while plugged in like the Original if you ever run out of battery. Another nice addition is the Silicone head which is much softer to the touch and easier to clean compared to the rough head of the Original.
Otherwise, both models are just as powerful and compatible with multiple attachments that can turn your wand into almost any type of toy available on the market today.
Since there are more fakes than originals around, I highly encourage you to buy from a trusted retailer like one of these. On top of being some of the cheapest places you can buy them, you will always be sure to get an original model.
If you’re looking for something a little more portable and light, We-Vibe’s Tango is like a Magic Wand trapped in a finger-sized bullet. Even though it is universally loved by cisgender power queens, most trans women are still unaware of this king amongst bullet vibrators.
Of course, due to its size, it won’t quite reach the unbelievable power of the Magic Wand, but the rumbles are deep enough to still please most.
Just like the Magic-Wand, it can be used by pre-op/non-op women by treating the whole gland to taint area like a clitoris and it is powerful enough to be used over clothing.
Otherwise, thanks to its much smaller footprint, it can easily be used on nipples or around the anus. Just avoid using it for anal penetration, since there’s no stopper to prevent it from getting sucked into your body.
The Tango is also rechargeable, fully submersible under water, and sports 8 deep low-frequency vibration modes including 4 gradual constant vibrations and 4 patterns. So throw this one in your purse or backpack and bring it everywhere you go!
For lesbians or women lucky enough to have a man who’s into pegging, harnesses have a lot to offer. So throughout the course of this entry, we’ll go through some of the best strap-ons the world has to offer.
And it doesn’t matter whether you’ve gone through with the operation or not, the fit found on these harnesses are comfortable for anyone, no matter what their situation might be!
And as always be sure to check out our dildo lists ( Non-Realistic / Realistic / Large ) to find out about the best body-safe and harness compatible dildos.
Otherwise, If the following options are still a bit rich for your blood, you should also check out this DIY Scarf harness, which is a great option to use on the go. We’re also big fans of the beautiful rope Harness by the great Artemisa FemmeCock.
Vac-U-Lock Supreme Harness
While most Vac-U-Lock compatible harnesses will only work with Vac-U-Lock toys, this one gives you the option of using the Universal O-Ring System as well.
So it gives you a ton of compatibility whether you want to use the very stable but limited Vac-U-Lock System or any other dildo with a base thanks to the included O-Rings.
The kit comes with a Vac-U-Lock Adapter, Differently Sized O-Rings and plenty of strap-length so it can fit on bigger girls as well. Of course, you should cut the straps to your desired length if you don’t want them dangling about.
The Supreme Harness is unisex, versatile and extremely affordable for the comfort it offers.
Spareparts Hardwear Strap-ons
These futuristic harnesses for futuristic people are also the most comfortable, stylish, and durable strap-ons you can buy today. All models are outfitted with durable Elastic O-rings that will accommodate a large variety of dildos.
One of our favorite features is the pockets found on top and under the O-Ring meant to accommodate any bullet vibe of your choosing. It’s also easy to trigger the bullets through the material. This way you don’t have to dig in there every time you want to change speeds. So if you fancy a bit of vibration during play, you will love those handy little pockets.
Spareparts harnesses also come in a variety of styles that could please the most feminine women while still offering some more neutral and tom boy friendly options as well.
If you’re more into old-school leather strap-ons, the only ones you will ever need are the Aslan Harnesses. They’re simply some of the most comfortable and durable leather options you will ever come by.
These leather harnesses also come in all sorts of beautiful colors and styles.
And If you’re quite the minimalist, they also offer a few cheaper options like the leather Commando and the simple harness which is made of nylon straps. They’re stable but not the most comfortable harnesses you will find in their collection, so wearing some underwear under them can help.
And If you like the Idea of “Strapless” dildos but never could find the perfect fit for you, you’ll probably love their Double Up Dildo Cuffs. It’s essentially a dildo holder for the wearer that you can attach at the bottom of your strap-on. You can attach any dildo or buttplug with a base and enjoy some penetration of your own while wearing your strap-on.
Dilators are a staple toy for any woman who’s gone through sexual reassignment surgery, allowing them to become more accustomed to vaginal penetration.
But many pre-op/non-op women are unaware that there is still plenty of fun to be had with these handy tools.
As you may already know, many pre-op trans women turn to anal stimulation for sexual release. This is a great way to still be sexually active while avoiding the feelings of dysphoria traditional masturbation & intercourse might cause.
But just like a brand spanking new vagina, bums are a tricky beast to tame. You see where I am getting at?
That’s right, dilators are not only good for vaginal training, but they’re also great for anal training as well! And if you go with glass or silicone dilators, you will be able to use them for your post-op needs as well since they can easily be sanitized. Something that is crucial if you want to avoid cross contamination.
Boiling them for 10 minutes or a 10% bleach water solution wash followed by a rinse will ensure that not a single bacteria survive the process.
The Fuze Silicone Dilators are our favorite silicone option. The main advantage is that they can be more forgiving and comfortable than their glass counterpart thanks to their squishy and flexible bodies. This does come at a price though since the silicone found on these can be a tad draggy, so you might have to double up on water-based lube during play/training to keep things nice and slippery.
Otherwise, Crystal Delight’s glass dilators are another great alternative. They have less give than their silicone alternative, but being extra smooth, they will make insertion that much easier. And while silicone toys are not compatible with silicone lubes, glass isn’t as picky. So being able to use long-lasting, slippery silicone lubes with these is a huge plus.
Just like the dilators in the previous entry, these minimalistic toys from Tantus are great toys for beginners looking to get started with this whole penetration business.
So whether you’re looking to tackle vaginal or anal sex, these 3 very gradual and untextured toys might be all you need to get you from inexperienced to penetration pro! And to make things even easier on debutants, they are flexible and come in a shiny frictionless silicone finish. A finish that bridges the gap between draggy matte silicone and glass toys beautifully.
With the smallest of the collection being a tiny bit larger than most human fingers, and the largest being of above average penis size ( 7 inches in length & 1.5 in width ), going through this collection should leave you ready to tackle almost any situation this world throws at you.
A lot of folks out there are also going to appreciate that they all come in 2 gender neutral colors being black and purple. So if you’re tired of looking at pink and flesh colored dildos, you can thank us later.
Of course, you could use traditional buttplugs to get your anal training done( more on that later ), but there’s nothing quite like a phallic object to get you ready for some real-world penetration. This is true even for lesbians looking to be on the receiving end of a strap-on, since most harness compatible toys are quite phallic, even when not entirely realistic.
So you’ve gone through the trials of vaginal and/or anal training and you’re now ready to enter the wonderful world of dildos… but where should you start?
Dildos are as varied as people and the perfect toy for you will depend on what you’re looking to achieve. And since most dildos come equipped with a base or testicles, most of them will fit in Strap-ons as well.
If you’re into men, you might want to get some practice under your belt before charming the next guy into your lair. This is why you might look into realistic dildos to get yourself used to the shape of man’s appendage.
And if you want to get even closer in realism, a dual density toy like the great Vixskin toys or the ever-realistic RealCock 2 are some great options to consider. This is because they don’t only stop at being shaped like actual penises, but they also feel quite close to the real thing thanks to their firm core and squishy outer layer.
On the other hand, if men are really not your thing or you simply prefer more appealing designs, there’s a vast variety of unrealistic dildos at your disposal as well. These will range from minimalistic & cute to full-on artistic & fantasy inspired toys. So there’s really something for anyone.
If you prefer to keep things hands-free, you will probably love dildos with suction cup bases. They’re perfect for a more natural experience during masturbation as well as being great for playing out threesome fantasies with a partner. Bases like the TOM V2 and the Love Arc will also give you more options and angles when it comes to mounting your suction cup dildos.
But if your favorite dildo doesn’t come equipped with a suction cup, not all is lost. Regular dildos can also be mounted on a variety of devices like the toy mounts from Liberator. And while the Vac-U-Lock system is the standard with sex machines, most of the full-size machines have optional universal toy holders that will allow you to secure almost any dildo with a base to them.
Being more expensive, another good option for a more natural toy experience is using something like the Insert Facilitator torso combined with the Penis Add-on of your choice.
And If during your training you’ve discovered yourself to be quite the size queen there’s no shortage of large dildos either. You’ll also be glad to hear that silicone and other body-safe options are slowly replacing the latex and jelly toys that once plagued the industry. So you can rest easy knowing that you won’t expose your bits to toxic materials if you enjoy the sizable stuff.
And if you still can’t find the perfect toy, it’s also possible to make your own dildo, either by molding it from your favorite penis or sculpting it from scratch!
Cheapest Places to buy:
There are a lot of toys represented here. So click through the links in the entry itself to find out about the best places to buy!
I’ll let you in on a little secret, Prostates, and G-spots are not only located more or less at the same place but, pleasure-wise, they serve pretty much the same role! And while HRT can induce quite a bit of shrinkage in some people, this usually doesn’t remove your ability to experience prostate/g-spot orgasms!
So of course, G-Spot toys are a great alternative to the often rugged and manly prostate toys available today. As a matter of fact, they’re so effective that we often suggest them to cis dudes looking for some extra oomph during play.
What this means for pre-op women is that you can get some beautiful and effective toys for anal stimulation that will provide orgasms like no other toys will. Just make sure you never let go of the handle, because most of these toys don’t come equipped with a stopper. So it’s a great method for avoiding embarrassing trips to the ER.
For post-op women, these toys will be just as effective anally. But if you’re one of the lucky ones, it is not impossible to stimulate this lovely spot through your vaginal walls either. So as long as you’re sensitive enough and didn’t suffer from too much shrinkage, you should be good to go!
It’s good to know that there’s quite a learning curve to Stimulating the G-spot or the Prostate. But don’t feel cheated since this applies to cis and trans folks alike. So be patient and read up on what it takes to stimulate it successfully. Also, remember that prior stimulation and relaxation can help tremendously when it comes to stimulating those regions successfully.
Due to their curved shape, these toys aren’t usually meant for back and forth penetration. Prying motions and rhythmical pressure is what they are best at, and turns out it’s what Prostates and G-spots love most! So the more rigid the toy is, the more intense the stimulation will be. This means that beautiful unconventional materials like stone, wood, glass, and stainless steel are all king in the G-spot/Prostate toy world.
But if you’d rather have a toy that’ll work for traditional penetration, softer materials will be better. If this is the case for you, you should definitely look into the NYTC Pack-and-Play toys, which are known to obliterate G-spots and prostates alike.
The vibrating Rave by We-vibe is another great G-Spot toy for Trans Women. It is so powerful and rumbly that this g-spot toy could easily act as a mini Magic Wand, enabling you to use it externally as well. Couple this with its unique asymmetrical design that allows you to stimulate your G-spot/Prostate by prying, rotating or penetrating and you’ve got yourself a pretty irresistible combo.
Heck, it’s probably one of the most inclusive practices in the world!
So butt plugs are not only perfect for the dames who consider their nether region out of commission at the moment but for anyone else looking for a darn good time.
If you’re just getting started with anal, you’ll want to start with a butt plug trainer set to get yourself up to speed. And since you can wear these for a while without having to hold onto them, they might be your best option to get yourself used to anal stimulation.
And since most of you should own a Magic Wand ( for real ladies, there’s a reason it’s the first item on this article ), pressing it against the base of your buttplug is a great way to completely lose your mind!
Feel free to use this information however you’d like.