Homosexual men are probably collectively rolling their eyes every time the next big new heterocentric couples’ toy shows up on the market.
You know how it goes, straight folks get all the new fancy innovations, lesbos have their strap-ons, double dils, and what-have-you, but what about you lewd dudes just hurting for some good options? What about sex toys for gay men, dammit!?
Of course, traditional butt plugs, prostate massagers, and masturbators are all decent choices for couples.
And if you’re looking for the phallic stuff ( realistic, abstract, fantasy, or large! ), as you can see, there’s no shortage of options either. Heck, if you’re looking for the best dildo for gay men specifically, there are some pretty awesome dils that put extra focus on the prostate that you would probably love ( head over to our prostate article for more information on those )!
But these are not exactly what I’d call couples toys, as they work just as well during solo play.
But don’t fret because, I, Jim the dildo dealer, know my stuff and, I’ve compiled some of the best gay sex toys for couples available today!
So sit back, relax, and read on for all the juicy details!
Also, make sure to see our guide on what lubes to use as well as how to clean your toys to avoid any complications.
That being said, here’s our top 13 list of the best gay sex toys for men, not necessarily from worst to best, because everyone’s needs and budgets are different.
Contents
- 1 TL;DR
- 1.1 Tantus’ C-Rings
- 1.2 CockSling 2.0 by Oxballs
- 1.3 Quickshot Boost & Vantage by Fleshlight
- 1.4 Tom of Finland Head to Head Masturbator
- 1.5 Lovense’s Hush 2
- 1.6 Plex with Flex by Hot Octopuss
- 1.7 Edge 2 by Lovense
- 1.8 We-Vibe Vector
- 1.9 Hugo by Lelo
- 1.10 Lovense Max 2
- 1.11 Kiiroo’s Pearl 2 or Fuse + Keon
- 1.12
- 1.13 Hismith Sex Machine
- 1.14 Lovense Sex Machine
- 1.15 Shockspot Sex Machines
TL;DR
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Best affordable, safe, & comfortable silicone cock rings |
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Great triple-duty cock ring/sling |
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Great stroker that can be used during blowjobs |
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Best two-person stroker for mutual masturbation |
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Best wireless app-controlled butt plugs |
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Affordable remote-controlled prostate plug with satisfying vibrations |
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Best “thick” adjustable & App-controlled prostate toy |
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Best slim adjustable & App-controlled prostate toy |
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Most unique couple’s prostate massager |
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Affordable gay male sex toy for long-distance sex |
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Best sex toys for gay men for long-distance sex |
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Best cheap sex machine with app control |
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Best mid-Range, double-ended sex machine with app control |
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Best sex machine with long-distance capabilities |
Tantus’ C-Rings
These are the best “no-frills” cock rings you can get.
For those who don’t already know, cock rings are worn at the base of the penis, behind the testicles, or both depending on the model or if you decide to wear two of them at the same time. This is intended to restrict the blood flow of a man’s erection, giving him a fuller hard-on and helping him to maintain it even after ejaculation.
If worn behind the testicles and if tight enough, the ring will apply pressure on the perineum as well, which can be quite pleasurable to some, especially during orgasm.
This great and all, but why go with Tantus over all the other brands and styles?
The big advantage here is that they’re made of premium platinum-cured silicone. Meaning that they are extremely durable and can also be fully sanitized. Therefore, it is possible to share them between partners after a simple 10-minute boil!
The advantages of silicone don’t end there either. The silicone is soft to the touch and comes in a number of rigidities. So whether you want a beginner ring or a more advanced one, silicone got you covered. With these rings, there’s really no need to invest in the other non-body-safe options out there.
Another big plus is that silicone rings have less of a tendency of getting caught in pubic hair than your standard cock ring. So If you ever ripped a handful of pubes off of your junk, you’ll know how valuable that is!
The only real caveat with silicone toys is that they shouldn’t be used in tandem with silicone lubes.
Tantus offers a few different models:
The super-soft C-Rings are stretchy and forgiving, so they’re comfortable and perfect for beginners. But if you want some serious pressure down there, these won’t be the best choice.
The Advanced and Beginner C-Rings are much firmer and are mostly meant to be worn behind the testicles. But if you’re extra girthy, they could be worn at the base of the penis as well. The only real difference between the two is that the beginner model has a looser fit.
Last but not least, The C-Sling is essentially a middle ground between the beginner and advanced C-Rings with an added flap that targets the perineum more intently than any other basic cock ring.
CockSling 2.0 by Oxballs
This all-in-one triple cock ring does it all. It’s a ball stretcher, a behind-the-testees ring as well as a base of the penis cock ring!
So you get all the advantages of all the different models out there, but these effects compound to give you an experience like no other.
On top of feeling great, it also makes your junk look like it just put on the Batsuit. And this alone justifies the investment ( if you’re a mega nerd like me, of course )!
Gay men tend to love these suckers, as they both feel and look like a million bucks. Plus the extra girth and longer-lasting erections you’ll sport will benefit your partner just as much! Honestly, the only reason I think they aren’t as popular amongst straight dudes is that they tend to usually a bit behind in general when it comes to male sexuality!
The only disadvantage is that it isn’t made of Silicone.
So it’ll be a bit more sticky than its silicone counterparts and you won’t be able to sanitize it, which is essential if you want to share it between partners. This also means that it is less durable and you will have to replace it over time.
But considering the cheap price, this isn’t all that dramatic!
Quickshot Boost & Vantage by Fleshlight
Even though the Quickshots are the cheapest Fleshlights available, they’re by no means disappointing.
They’re inconspicuous, cheap and feels almost as great as any other Fleshlight.
More importantly, they also double as great couples’ sex toys for gay men since the open-ended design allows for your partner to fellate you while in use.
At the price of being a bit less stealthy, the transparent Quickshot Vantage also gives a pretty good view to your significant other as well! And, as any self-respecting homosexual man should know, us guys are all about the visuals!
We suggest using less lube than you would normally use while using it during a blowjob. Since lube will mix up with saliva and, through all that lubrification, you might lose the Quickshot’s great texture.
A good flavored lube will also go a long way in making the experience more pleasant for your SO. Otherwise, if your partner is well hydrated, nothing stops you from going all spit!
The only caveat is that the Quickshot can be quite noisy in use so, if the walls are thin where you reside, this might not be the optimal choice for a nice stealthy BJ.
Tom of Finland Head to Head Masturbator
The Tom of Finland Head to head male masturbator brings mutual masturbation to the next level! And when it comes to sex toys for gay men, there’s no better art than Tom of Finland’s to adorn the packaging!
As the name implies, it’s a double-ended stroker that can accommodate up to 2 guys at the same time!
This results in a very intimate and kinky experience. The proximity also leaves you in a position that is perfect for making out or doing a quick reach around for some extra stimulation! Just for this reason alone, this is probably one of the best gay sex toys for couples!
The sleeve itself is rigid enough so it won’t just wobble around during play and it feels surprisingly good compared to other similar masturbators.
The head to head also comes adorned with 2 single functions, AAA-powered bullets with decent ( but buzzy ) vibrations.
Sadly, the vibrations are dampened by the thickness of the material, so we highly suggest you invest in the powerful Tango or one of its alternatives and replace the included vibes.
The Head to Head is also completely transparent, so you can both enjoy the view while going down to pound town.
Like most traditional strokers, the Head to Head isn’t fully sanitizable since it is made of a porous material, so use it only with steady, STD tested partners.
But otherwise, this masturbator is relatively painless to clean.
Simply remove the bullets and clean it normally with some mild soap. It’s also important that you make sure that it dries completely before storing it if you want to avoid mold.
Lovense’s Hush 2
These excellent wireless butt plugs are bound to be a hit with gay guys who are into public or long-distance play.
The Hush 2 comes in 4 comprehensive sizes, going from 1 inch in diameter to 2.25 inches! So no matter what’s your level of comfort with anal, the folks at Lovense have got you covered.
It can be controlled via an app on your smartphone or with buttons on the base of the toy. The app isn’t just a fancy controller. Here you can customize your vibrations and let a partner control your toy from any distance amongst many other extra features! Plus the T-bar base is super comfortable to wear over extended periods of time and while on the go, so it’ll absolutely go hand in hand with the remote controls.
Being from Lovense, the vibrations are also strong and rumbly so there’s definitely no complaints here!
Just keep in mind that wireless sex toys in general aren’t perfect. The wireless signal has a hard time getting through people or limbs and they have a history of straight-up not working with bigger folks. Sadly, this is an issue with most wireless toys so we really can’t really blame it on them.
But Lovense is definitely the best one at handling those connectivity issues, so it’s still worth a shot with that in mind!
Plex with Flex by Hot Octopuss
The Plex with Flex, as a remote-controlled butt plug with a generous prostate curve, is a perfect gay couple’s toy.
I really appreciate the design on this one as it’s not the usual rugged look found on most prostate massagers. When it comes to sex toys for gay men, real manly dudes aren’t the only target here ( have you ever heard of a twink, sex industry? ), and I feel like this luxurious edge will satisfy most of us equally.
As the name suggests, the Plex…. also comes with flex, and I can confirm that they aren’t lying!
Its silicone body is flexible enough to conform to our anatomy without lacking the rigidity required to apply enough pressure on the right spots. So if you use it during sex, or when walking around town, you’ll be sure that the Plex will bend with you instead of awkwardly poking on your insides.
I’m also happy to tell you that the subtle base is also great for walking around and you won’t need to assume the classic cowboy gait everywhere you go!
The real star of the show here is the “Treble & Bass” vibrations first introduced in the Jett.
“Bass” refers to the rumbly vibrations most sex toy fanatics rave about. It’s the type of low-frequency vibrations that can be deeply felt throughout the body.
But the problem with rumbly vibes is that it can be quite difficult to make them powerful without compromising on the vibration quality. Something high-frequency vibrations ( or “Treble” in this case ) don’t struggle with at all.
And while you usually have to choose between very powerful yet superficial buzzy vibes or low-frequency bone-rattling ones, this Bass & Treble system allows you to enjoy both at the same time! Which can be a pretty novel & nuanced sensation.
I still think the toy could be a touch more powerful, especially since the rumbles can become a little buzzy on the highest levels ( a common problem with rumbly toys, to be fair ) but it still should be plenty for most of us.
The Plex is also rechargeable & fully waterproof.
A definite upgrade over the battery-operated Jett which introduced “Bass & Treble” vibrations in the first place
Plus, being fully waterproof, clean-up is a total breeze. And I won’t scoff at the option of getting freaky in the shower or in the pouring rain ( you hopeless romantic )!
For gay couples, the remote control also really expands play options.
You still have buttons on the base of the toy if you prefer to play solo and keep things simple. But the controller is still useful when by yourself since the buttons on the toy will be well out of view.
So if you’re not a proficient braille reader and want to avoid removing the toy every time you want to change settings, those who like to also play solo shouldn’t ignore this feature.
Of course, it’s also perfect for partnered play or going outside and getting freaky!
I wouldn’t have hated an app for the Plex as they’re now pretty common for such toys, but the controller is pretty dope and subtle anyway. Plus, I have a feeling that the lack of an app actually helped in keeping the price down so I’ll let that one slide!
Edge 2 by Lovense
Lovense is mostly known for making toys for sex cam performers, being pretty much the only company making devices that natively react to the spectator’s tips.
This is one of the best gay sex toys for long-distance relationships or public play since all Lovense toys can be wirelessly controlled via any smartphone.
The Edge is no different and while it seems visually and functionally identical to the Hugo mentioned further down, it does have a few interesting unique features. Like Lelo’s effort, it offers pretty strong vibrations, with motors on both the perineum and prostate, as well as being rechargeable.
Just keep in mind that if you’re a beginner, you would be better off with the more accessible Hugo or Vector mentioned below since this prostate massager is a bit more on the thicker side.
So why would I add a prostate massager that is essentially a slightly larger clone of another product in this list? Well, it’s because tricky old Jimmy kept the best for last, of course!
The Edge features a completely adjustable prostate arm. So If you’ve had issues in the past with the fit of your prostate toys, this is as good as it gets.
The only real issue I have with this prostate massager, and this applies to most Bluetooth toys, is that connection can be a bit hit and miss at times. If the signal has to go through a person, or even just a leg, it might not reach its destination.
We-Vibe Vector
Not all gay men are anal pros, but all men should still have access to forgiving, yet powerful prostate toys.
Well, you’re in luck because…
The Vector is one of the smallest, most beginner-friendly vibrating prostate massagers out there.
Plus, being coupled with We-Vibe’s signature powerful rumbly vibrations, prostate pros won’t be disappointed by this toy either. The small size is still absolutely welcome as it is a rare sight in the world of prostate vibrators, with larger toys dominating the scene.
Like most vibrating prostate massagers, the Vector comes with 2 vibes, one for the prostate and another one for the perineum. You can even choose between which motor you want to be active, allowing you to warm up with the perineum vibe and finish the job with the internal vibe!
Another important feature borrowed from their flagship Chorus is the fully adjustable neck.
A neat feature that will allow almost anyone to find a perfect fit.
Not only can you better adjust the Vector to your anatomy, but you can also deepen the curve for more intense pressure once you’re ready for more.
Of course, the Vector wouldn’t be considered a couple’s toy without it’s remote and App.
Just like most other We-Vibe toys, these additions make the Vector an amazing couples’ and long-distance relationship toy.
Your partner can take over the toy in the bedroom, out in public, or even across countries if needed!
Of course, the remote is more convenient to use in the bedroom, but the app offers more options to customize your vibrations. So you might want to bring your phone along if you want as many features to play with as possible.
Hugo by Lelo
The Hugo is a prostate and perineum vibrator that comes with a wireless controller with some pretty unique features.
Its silicone-covered body is not too big either. So while this might not be the perfect first-time prostate massager, it is still pretty accessible to most guys.
It can be used in the shower or bath without any problems. And to top it all off, it’s USB rechargeable and covered by Lelo’s great warranty.
The real kicker is Lelo’s SenseMotion wireless controller. And what a difference it makes!
First of all, the remote adds much more control over the vibrations themselves. You can customize the 6 function’s strength to small incremental amounts. So if the prostate in the couple likes a more gradual climb, it can be well worth the investment.
Then you can turn on the SenseMotion!
This neat little feature allows you to either gradually raise the vibrations by tilting the toy up to 90 degrees or make the vibrations more intense the harder you shake the controller.
…And this would be just a bad gimmick if the controller didn’t vibrate!
That’s right! The vibrations in the controller imitate any vibrations found on the prostate massager itself.
If hearing this doesn’t spark your imagination, let me help you get the ball rolling.
If alone, you could put the controller on the shake mode and masturbate with it, holding the vibrating controller under your penis. As you get more into it, the prostate massager will vibrate more and more intensely as well, making it a very organic experience.
If with a partner, he could do the masturbating himself with the vibrating controller and you would both be riding the same wave! Or he could put it on tilt mode and act like he’s the Caesar of your prostate!
Lovense Max 2
The Lovense Max 2 is suped-up Fleshlight/Fleshjack with great long-distance features.
It vibrates, contracts, and also has app control which makes it entirely hands-free!
While it is possible to reach orgasm without any stroking at all, manual strokes can most definitely intensify the experience.
I also appreciate that the included sleeve is completely gender-neutral so everyone can enjoy it equally. Though if you’re bisexual, a replacement vagina sleeve is also available!
But what makes the Max 2 really shine on its own is the natural contractions it offers.
The vibrations aren’t that mind-blowing. I mean, they’re rumbly enough to travel through the sleeve and can be felt anywhere inside the toy, but they aren’t especially powerful. But once the contractions kick in, this device really starts to show its full potential!
There are 3 vibration strengths and 4 patterns along with 3 gradually tighter contractions. There’s also a quick-release valve if you can’t take the pressure anymore or if you somehow got stuck.
It’s worth noting that the air pump’s motor can get a bit loud, so it might not be fully roomie/family-proof! Still, it’s nothing some loud music won’t fix.
Of course, being a Lovense device, the long-distance features is what couples will love most!
The App allows customization of the strength of both vibrations and contractions, so if you felt limited by the 3-4 incremental options offered by the physical buttons, you can really find what you want here. Plus, the app control lets you lay on your back with the Max 2 resting on yourself, with no need to touch the actual device!
There are also your usual gimmicks like letting music and sound control your device and if you’re one of the rare folks to actually enjoy patterns, you can also create your own in-app.
Sadly, porn & VR sync isn’t really possible with the Max 2 like on more premium similar devices like the Keon & Handy. So if that’s why you got interested in the Max 2 in the first place, I’d definitely look into Kiiroo’s Keon instead.
The best part of the app in my opinion is that it also allows a partner to control your toy from any distance!
You can control another Max 2 with it if you’re both more into penile stimulation or Lovense’s Nora if one of you enjoys penetration!
The Nora was originally meant to be a woman’s toy, but it also works great as an anal and perineum toy thanks to its vibrating “clitoral arm”. The real difference with the Keon and Max 2 is that the Keon is usually controlled by your partner’s penetrative motions, the Max 2 puts the top in charge and controls the Nora in return.
It’s worth noting that the Nora only vibrates and rotates, so it won’t replicate the motions 1 to 1 like on the Keon. More intensity on the Max 2 simply means higher settings on the Nora!
Kiiroo’s Pearl 2 or Fuse + Keon
Kiiroo is the leading brand in Teledildonics.
If you’re not informed on the matter, this means that they make Dildos that can sync their motions with another toy, at any distance.
A unique feature that makes long-distance relationships and penetrative sex a possibility! So if you’re looking for the best gay sex toys for simulating long-distance sex, it doesn’t get much better than this.
But all of these devices work perfectly well on their own as well, so they won’t only be good for connected sex.
The Pearl 2 is Kiiroo’s basic model and the Fuse comes with a clitoral stimulator attached which can easily be used to stimulate a man’s perineum as well.
The Pearl 2 and the Fuse were originally meant to be paired with Kiiroo’s Onyx 2. And while the Onyx 2 is alright and sports some impressive technology, it’s usually not enough to bring men to climax all by itself. It’s honestly nothing remotely close to real sex.
Thankfully, the Launch changed all that.
Basically, it’s meant to hold a masturbator and do all the motions for you.
It is also compatible with any of the classic Fleshlights ( though you will have to use them inside the Kiiroo masturbator shell ), so that gives you plenty of choices to pick from. They offer gender-neutral models as well as replicas of any orifices you can normally have sex with.
The Keon can be used alone or be controlled by someone else via the Kiiroo dildo of your choice amongst many other exciting features!
If you’re not inspired yet, I can think of many ways to use these couples’ sex toys.
The obvious being long distance with one playing with his Kiiroo toy and the other feeling the motions being recreated live on the Keon. The Kiiroo toys don’t even have to be inserted anally, virtual blowjobs and hand-jobs are totally acceptable as well!
But if you enjoy looking at each other masturbating, you could simply use your respective couples’ toys in the same room and share the sensations in unison.
Like a bit of BDSM? Strap the Keon on Mr. and stroke the Kiiroo toy with your hands and just look at him squirm.
The possibilities are really endless!
Hismith Sex Machine
I usually never push Chinese-made sex toys. But you can consider this sex machine one of the rare exceptions.
Heck, I’d even argue it’s one of the best sex machines you can get for the money!
With the Hismith, you can expect about 240 strokes per minute and 2 to 6 inches in stroke length. It also delivers enough torque to work with most large toys. But you might need to prop the sex machine against a wall or something heavy if you don’t want it to rock under the weight of some of the bulkier toys.
The Hismith can also be used completely upright and remain stable without any issues, which is a pretty rare feature amongst sex machines.
As of now, there are two options to choose from and both models will come with the power supply of the country it was ordered from. It also comes with a carry bag with a thick foam insert to keep your sex machine safe while you travel about.
The “Wire Controlled” is the standard model, it comes with the classic wired controller and a cheaper price tag.
The “APP Controlled” comes with … well, app control! This allows you to control the machine with your phone or let someone else take over, no matter how far they are. Thanks to the app, you can also use & customize patterns as well.
Plus, if you don’t feel like using your phone, they’ve thrown in a convenient little wireless controller to sweeten the deal!
You’ll be also glad to find that there’s plenty of attachment and accessories to choose from.
They offer Vac-U-Lock, suction cup, and dildo doubler adapters, as well as rigid and flexible extension arms and toy clamps. Just avoid their Magic Wand Holder, since it isn’t strong enough to support the weight of the wand.
Just keep in mind that none of the adapters are included with the machine unless you go with one of their bundles, so be sure to add them to your cart before checking out.
Like most sex machine companies, you should also stay clear of their non-silicone dildos. Thankfully, they’ve slowly started including silicone in their collection of dildos.
If you’d like to find the best dildo for gay men to attach to your sex machine, definitely check out our dedicated Vac-U-Lock article!
For a small extra fee ( about 20$ ) you can also now get the Hismiths in multiple funky colors! Sadly, this only applies to app-enabled devices.
Lovense Sex Machine
For a few more buckaroos, The Lovense Sex Machine is a mid-range app-controlled double-ended thruster perfect for couples who both enjoy penetration and long-distance fun.
This machine is essentially the perfect middle ground between the cheap Hismith & the premium Shockspot machines.
It’s faster ( at 300 RPMs vs 240 RPMs ) than the Hismith machines. The app control, being from Lovense is definitely better than what you’ll find on its direct competitor. Stroke length is a touch shorter though ( 4.5 inches vs 6 inches ) when compared to its more affordable alternative.
While it’s a touch more expensive than the Hismith, it does come with a lot of extra stuff to make up for it.
You’ll get 2 silicone dildos, 2 Vac-U-Lock adapters for all your VUL toys, a carry bag, along with an extra arm so two people can use the fuck machine at the same time! It’s essentially a double-ended dildo on crack!
So you will definitely get a lot out of that investment!
Lovense’s app controls are probably the best in the business, and most features have made their way to this machine as well!
Every function can be customized to your exact liking, patterns can be hand-drawn or controlled by ambient music or straight from your phone.
Of course, there are plenty of long-distance relationship features like allowing another user to control your machine from any distance. There are also text and video chat features that integrate seamlessly with the app.
The app can also be used as a local wireless controller if you prefer to ride solo!
Shockspot Sex Machines
The Shockspot is simply the best sex machine available on the market today.
They outperform and have more features than any other fuck machine money can buy.
These luxury sex machines offer speeds up to 24 inches per second and about 105 pounds in torque and stroke length will depend on the model you choose. The classic and Dual Thruster models offer 8 inches max in stroke length and there’s also a 12-inch capable device as well.
So not only can the Shockspots accommodate larger toys, but they can also thrust deeper than any other sex machine out there.
The frame of the Shockspot is also one of the most versatile we’ve seen.
It can hit pretty much any angle you can throw at it and you can also completely fold down the Shockspot for easy storage.
This means it is not only easy to travel with but, once you’re done, you can also just stash it under the bed. No disassembly required.
These great sex machines can be controlled by a PC or a handy remote control.
With the Touch and Feel PC Software, you can either pick from the included presets or make your own programs. Once this is all set, all you have to do you is press the palm button to set the machine in motion once you’re in position.
The Shockspot can either be controlled by you or from anywhere else in the world. This makes the Shockspot perfect for solo use as well as for long-distance relationships.
The remote control is optional and gives you control over the depth, speed, and smoothness of the strokes. This way, you don’t need a PC to operate your sex-machine.
Just like most fucking machines, they come outfitted with Vac-U-Lock adapters by default.
If you need more options, they also offer a pretty good universal dildo adapter as well as a Fleshlight holder.