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The 13 Best Lesbian Toys & Strap-Ons for Couples in 2023

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Ladies that can’t get enough of ladies know that finding the perfect couple’s toys is like trying to tap dance through a minefield. This is exactly why I put this handy little guide together! 

So, hopefully, by the end of this list, you’ll definitely know a little more about the best lesbian toys this world has to offer!

Now keep in mind that a good chunk of the entries in this article assumes that at least one of you two enjoys penetration.  I understand that it isn’t always the case, and if that’s your shtick, we still have a few awesome options in there for the clitorally inclined.

But if you need more choices, you should definitely take a look at our clit toys list as well as our BDSM & wand buying guide!

We’ll also talk a lot about the best strap-ons for lesbians here, but not so much about strap-on toys.

So make sure to read our best unrealistic dildos list to find the best compatible dildos for your harness. And, for the interested, we also have pretty extensive realistic, fantasy, and large dildo lists as well.


Also, make sure to see our guide on what lubes to use as well as how to clean your toys to avoid any complications.


That being said, here are our top 12 list of best lesbian toys and harnesses for couples, not necessarily from worst to best, because everyone’s needs and budgets are different.

TL;DR

 

Best wireless & LDR toy for internal play

Lovense’s Lush

 

Best wireless & LDR panty vibes for external play

We-Vibe’s Moxie

 

Best wireless & LDR dual toy 

We-Vibe’s Chorus

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Best wireless & LDR butt plugs

Hush 2

 

Best lesbian strap-on on a budget 

Multiple entries

 

Most stable strap-on harness options overall 

Spareparts Hardwear

Strap-on-Me Lingerie harness for lesbian couples review

 

Gorgeous lesbian harnesses for femme tops

Strap-On-me Lingerie Strap-ons

 

Best lesbian strap-on for leather lovers

Aslan

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Great comfort & grinding accessory for strap-on wearers

Sili Saddle & Banana Pants Grinders

 

Best “strapless” / dual-dildos

Multiple entries

 

Best clit-focused dual-dildos

Multiple entries

 

Best wedges, toy holders, fluid-proof protectors

Liberator

 

Best strap-on harness to actually make you consider dental dams

Dental Dam Harness

 

Wireless & Long Distance Relationship Toys

Lush by Lovense

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If you’re looking for an app-controlled, powerful, and versatile vaginal toy to use in public, in the bedroom, or while wearing a strap-on, you will love the Lovense Lush.

This great little long-distance toy can be used solo with your own cellphone through Bluetooth.

Of course, it can be controlled from long distances when connected to the internet and you can also grant access to a partner to control the toy over Bluetooth as well.

While it’s perfectly fine to use in the bedroom, you might come across some issues when using it in public.

You see, Bluetooth can be a bit tricky since it can’t go through flesh. So if your significant other is at a weird angle or if someone is in the way, you will lose contact with the toy.

A good fix to remedy this issue is to simply use the toy over 4G/5G or Wi-Fi when in public. It’s also good to allow your phones to stay connected to the Internet and Bluetooth when the screen is off. This can easily be tweaked in your phone’s settings.

It’s also worth noting that the tail end of the toy is the antenna. So if the antenna is between your legs, or in your butt crack, it will be difficult for the signal to reach its target. So it’s better to let the antenna rest over your pubic bone.

Otherwise, the app is pretty versatile. 

You can customize your vibrations and patterns, you can sync the toy to music, video chat with your partner while letting them control your toy, and so on.

The big caveat to almost any wireless couples’ sex toys is that they’re known to straight up not work for bigger women. So if it’s the case, you’re better off skipping the Lush and the next entry altogether!

Conclusion
Strong and filled with features, the Lush wins over most other wireless egg-shaped vibes out there. It also helps that this great couples’ toy can be used in the public, in the bedroom, and over long distances.

Plus, if you’re looking for a great strap-on toy for the wearer, wearing this under a harness can really turn things to 11 since it’ll allow the bottom to dish out some orgasmic revenge in exchange!

Material
8.5
Vibration
9
Features
9
Sensation
8.5
Pros
Can be controlled via an App
Control can also be given to a partner
Can be worn on the go or under a strap-on
Easy to clean
Sanitizable
Cons
Bluetooth can be finicky at times
8.7

 

We-Vibe Moxie

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Let’s face it, most panty clit vibes are utter trash. They’re usually a mix of weak vibrations, bad placement, and horrible connectivity.  

If it’s been your experience as well, get ready to get your mind blow by We-Vibe’s Moxie!

The Moxie is a remote-controlled panty vibe that’s held in place by a powerful magnet.

It can either be remote or App controlled.

Since We-Vibe is a long-time leader in couple’s toys, you’ll also benefit from their signature app, packed with helpful features for folks in long-distance relationships as well as for people just looking to get off on go!

Being the makers of the extremely popular & powerful Tango, I had a lot of expectations when it came to the vibrations.

While the Moxie doesn’t reach the heights of Tango, I’m happy to say that the vibrations are still pretty impressive nonetheless!

At its maximum strength, it’s actually pretty similar to the Tango’s 3rd setting, which is definitely no slouch.

Just like the Lush above, it’s also one of the best strap-on toys for the person wearing the harness.

Though since it still needs panties to attach to, they will need to wear some underwear under their harness to get a good fit. But if the top in question prefers clitoral stim above all, the easy access to her bits is a worthy sacrifice!

The only real downside is that since this toy’s motor isn’t inside the wearer & pretty powerful, it’s noisier than most wireless vibes. So if you’re all about that public play, make sure to only use it in noisy environments. It’s definitely good for the streets & movies, but absolutely bad for your inlaws and the library!

Conclusion
The Moxie is the best wireless panty clit vibe around, PERIOD. So don’t bother with all the crap and get on it, baby!
Material
8.5
Vibration
9
Features
9
Sensation
9
Pros
Can be controlled via an App or controller
Can be worn on the go or under a strap-on
Stable
Easy to clean
Sanitizable
Cons
Bluetooth can be finicky
Noisier than other wireless toys
9

 

We-Vibe Chorus

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I’ve seen every iteration of We-Vibe’s flagship couples toy. This iconic hands-free sex toy that started it all is now at its 7th installment and we’re happy to say they’ve finally perfected the formula.

And while the last version ( the Sync ) got very close to making this toy indispensable, the Chorus definitely blows it out of the water! 

The Chorus is made to clamp onto a woman’s pubic bone and provides simultaneous vibrations to both the clitoris and the G-Spot.

This handy shape is great for hands-free play but it is also made to be used during penetration.

It also helps that the Chorus takes very little vaginal real estate, so it is possible to use a dildo at the same time while inserted. 

So if you like throwing harnesses into the mix, the wearer and/or the receiver can both benefit from this toy when worn, making it one of the best & most versatile couples AND strap-on toys in the biz.

This little hands-free sex toy rumbles like it’s at least twice its size.

The We-Vibe 1, 2, 3, 4, and 4 plus were all pretty underwhelming in terms of vibrations. Very strange since We-Vibe makes the amazingly rumbly & compact Tango. And while the Sync really improved on the vibrations, the Chorus is pretty much on par with what the Tango has to offer.

That’s right, the Chorus is essentially a hands-free Tango with bonus G-spot stimulation!

Of course, the vibrations on the clitoris are more powerful than the ones found on the G-spot. But that’s a small price to pay to keep the insertable part small enough to accommodate penetration as well.

Another issue that was common with all the previous iterations was the hit and miss fit of the toy. But again, this was fixed with the Sync with its fully adjustable body. A feature that was kept in this new iteration of the toy.

we vibe sync adjustable

The Chorus can either be controlled with buttons directly on the toy or with its handy little remote control. And if you wanna push its reach even further, it is also App-enabled!

The Sync can be controlled from any distance with the aid of a smartphone or controller.

And while the Chorus has plenty of functions by itself, you can get even more through the app. You can even make your own patterns and sync your Chorus to the sound of music!

Speaking of the new controller…

It still comes with all its standard functions, but you do get some pretty exciting bonus features as well!

You can now squeeze the remote to intensify the vibrations. Wich is a really natural way of operating the toy as a lot of folks already naturally squeeze anything in their reach when nearing climax.

Additionally, the controller essentially acts as a relay for the Bluetooth signal. The Ankorlink technology ( as they call it ) allows your controller to receive the signals sent from the App and transfer it to the toy itself, allowing for more seamless play and fewer connection issues!

Still, like any other Bluetooth hands-free sex toys, if you wish to have your partner control it in public, you’re better off doing it over 4G/5G or wi-fi as opposed to straight from their Bluetooth.

Also, closing your legs while sitting or being extra curvy might get in the way of the signal, so keep that in mind before making the jump.

Conclusion
If you want a wireless and hands-free couples toy that vibrates powerfully on both the Clitoris and G-Spot, it doesn’t get much better than this.

And this little toy is so versatile it’s not even funny. Wear it inside, outside, under your strap-on, or while using other toys, the choice is yours!

Material
8.5
Vibration
8.5
Features
9.5
Sensation
9
Pros
Powerful
Versatile
Can be controlled via an App or controller
Control can also be given to a partner
Can be worn on the go or under a strap-on
Comfortable enough to be worn all day
Can be worn during penetration
Adjustable
Easy to clean
Sanitizable
Cons
Bluetooth can be finicky
Can fall off during especially vigorous sex
9

 

Lovense’s Hush 2

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These excellent wireless butt plugs are bound to be a hit with couples who enjoy a bit of anal play.

The Hush 2 comes in 4 comprehensive sizes, going from 1 inch in diameter to 2.25 inches! So no matter what’s your level of comfort with anal, the folks at Lovense have got you covered.

It can be controlled via an app on your smartphone or with buttons on the base of the toy. The app isn’t just a fancy controller. Here you can customize your vibrations and let a partner control your toy from any distance amongst many other extra features! Plus the T-bar base is super comfortable to wear over extended periods of time and while on the go, so it’ll absolutely go hand in hand with the remote controls.

Being from Lovense, the vibrations are also strong and rumbly so there are definitely no complaints here!

Just keep in mind that wireless sex toys in general aren’t perfect. The wireless signal has a hard time getting through people or limbs and they have a history of straight-up not working with bigger folks. Sadly, this is an issue with most wireless toys so we really can’t really blame it on them.

But Lovense is definitely the best one at handling those connectivity issues, so it’s still worth a shot with that in mind!

Conclusion
These toys are perfect for private or public play as well as long-distance relationships. So if you’re looking for strong vibrations in a wireless anal couples’ sex toy, this is a great option.

The lack of a physical controller for the hush makes it a bit awkward to use during sex though, as you will need to bring your smartphone along for the ride.

Material
8.5
Vibration
9
Features
9
Sensation
9
Pros
Powerful & rumbly
Can be controlled via an App
Control can also be given to a partner
Can be worn on the go or under a strap-on
Easy to clean
Sanitizable
Cons
Bluetooth can be finicky
8.9

 


Strap-ons

Budget Harnesses

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For lesbians who fancy Strap-On play, it’s no mystery that finding a comfortable, stable, and cheap harness can be a full-time job.

So for this entry, we will cover the top options for those looking for the best strap-on for lesbians on a budget!

 

VAC-U-LOCK SUPREME HARNESS

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While most Vac-U-Lock compatible harnesses will only work with Vac-U-Lock toys, the supreme harness gives you the option of using the Universal O-Ring System as well.

The supreme harness gives you a ton of compatibility whether you want to use the very stable but limited Vac-U-Lock System or any other dildo with a base.

The kit comes with a Vac-U-Lock Adapter, Differently Sized O-Rings, and plenty of strap length so it can fit curvier women as well. Of course, you should cut the straps to your desired length if you don’t want them dangling about.

The Supreme Harness is unisex and is the most comfortable harness in the Vac-U-Lock collection in part due to its back support that won’t dig in your skin as you thrust.

If you do decide to use Vac-U-Lock toys with the Supreme Harness, know that the beat-up mons situation discussed in the Sili Saddle entry is even worse than with standard dildos. That’s all thanks to the hard plastic backing found on each Vac-U-Lock adapter.  So if you go that route, the Sili Saddle mentioned above is almost mandatory.

 

RODEOH HARNESSES

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Rodeoh makes brief-style strap-ons that are essentially a cheap alternative to the great Spareparts Tomboi Harness.

Each model comes outfitted with a stretchy adjustable O-ring, so you won’t have to carry multiple rings to accommodate all of your dildos.

They are also compatible with “Strapless” dildos thanks to an opening aligned with the O-Ring. Rodeoh also offers a model called the duo that is specifically made for this purpose as well.

Just know that the integrated Stretchy O-Ring isn’t the most durable, and you might have to completely replace your harness after some time. But at such a low price, this isn’t so dramatic.

They also aren’t as stable as the panty and brief-style harnesses from SpareParts and definitely not as stable as most traditional jockstrap or G-string style harnesses. That shouldn’t be too surprising since they are essentially just underwear with O-Rings.

But if you’re looking for the best lesbian strap-on for the non-femme, this cheap brief-style harness is the way to go.

 

TANTUS HARNESS KITS

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The harnesses included in these kits are some of the most basic harnesses on this list.

But the fact that they’re bundled with beautiful non-phallic silicone toys from Tantus make these kits extremely valuable for people who are just starting out.

Tantus offers kits with straight smooth dildos as well as models with intense g-spot curves.

Just don’t be fooled by the harnesses that come with a bullet vibe. The bullets themselves are rather cheap, but what’s even worst is the placement of the bullet pockets. You see, the people who made these harnesses seem to have no prior knowledge of female anatomy and unless your clitoris is near your belly button, you won’t get much out of these.

The harnesses are still fine by themselves once you’ve discarded the bullet vibes, so don’t let that deter you, especially if you’re looking for a great deal.

Conclusion

These are all great options if money isn’t exactly pouring out of your pockets or if you’re just trying to figure out if harnesses are for you.

If these options are still too rich for your blood, you should also check out this DIY Scarf harness, which is a great option to use on the go. Otherwise, we’re big fans of the beautiful rope Harness by the great Artemisa FemmeCock ( And please, bookmark her blog while you’re at it! ).

Material
7.5
Features
8
Sensation
7.5
Pros
Cheap
Versatile
Great Place to start if you're unsure you'll stick to the practice
Cons
Not the most comfortable options
Not as stable as the more expensive models
Clean up is more involved
7.7

 

Spareparts Hardwear Strap-ons

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The Spareparts harnesses are the evolution of the traditional harness.

These futuristic harnesses for futuristic people are also the most comfortable and durable strap-ons for lesbians you can buy today. All models come outfitted with durable Elastic O-rings that will accommodate a large variety of dildos and they will all work with double or “strapless” dildos as well.

The material you will find on the SpareParts harnesses is also extremely comfortable, breathable and the material dries almost as fast as you wet it.

One of our favorite features is the hidden pockets on top and under the O-Ring meant to hold your bullet vibrators.

Bullets secured in there are also easy to trigger through the material of the harness. So you won’t have to dig in there every time you want to change speed. So if you fancy a bit of vibration during play, you’ll probably love those handy little pockets.

There’s also a fabric separating the dildos and bullets from your skin that can be opened to accommodate any “Strapless”/ Double dildo strap-on toys you might want to use!

SpareParts Joque Harness - Red Pepper

The Joque is their most stable and popular model. It’s a jockstrap-style harness that is very stable and perfect for vigorous play. It’s probably the best strap-on for lesbians you can find ( unless you love leather of course ). 

The brief-style Tomboi, Lingerie, and Theo harnesses are a bit less stable but often considered more convenient since you can simply slip them on like normal underwear without having to deal with straps or anything like that.  It’s also pretty easy to just hit the town wearing them like regular underwear.

SpareParts Tomboi Harness Briefs - Blackout

The Tomboi also comes with an extra 3rd pocket on the side for condoms or extra bullet batteries. It’s also the best lesbian strap-on for the tomboys and non-binary folks out there!

SpareParts Sasha Lingerie Harness - Midnight Black

The Lingerie can be converted from a booty panty to more traditional underwear and comes with optional garter belts. Let’s just say that if you’re not a butch, this might be the best strap-on harness you will ever find.

Now let’s just give the harness-loving femmes out there a moment to compose themselves.

Conclusion
If you’re looking for the one harness to rule them all, the SpareParts HardWear gear is pretty hard to beat.

So whether you go with the very stable Joque or their convenient underwear-style harnesses, you’ll be sure to go home with one of the best strap-ons for lesbians you can get today.

Material
9
Features
9.5
Sensation
9
Pros
Very comfortable
Stable ( especially the Joque )
Easy to clean
Bullet vibrator pouches
compatible with double dildo strap-on toys
Tons of different styles
Cons
Can't think of any
9.3

 

Strap-On-Me Lingerie Harnesses

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These gorgeous lingerie harnesses are definitely the best option for lesbian couples with femme tops or switches!

Boy are those things gorgeous to look at. And if the strap-on-wielding partner in your team is on the Fem side of things, you can be assured that they’ll love it too.

I can assure you that these harnesses will completely blend in with their fancy lingerie ( and not the crappy sex store lingerie you buy just to rip right off them )!

They come in a nice variety of models and colors, so no matter what’s their signature look and hue, there’s going to be something for that special someone in your team.

Now being this gorgeous does come at a bit of a price.

These harnesses perform well enough but don’t expect the stability you’ll get from Spareparts, so if things get a bit intense, you might want to hold onto the base of your dildos while playing.

You won’t get the dirt-cheap affordability that comes from Rodeoh either. But the prices here aren’t crazy and honestly are much more affordable than I originally anticipated.

Lastly, these aren’t compatible with double-ended dildos like the Spareparts and Rodeohs.

Thankfully, even if they look as fragile as traditional lingerie, they are quite easy to clean and maintain!

Thanks to their nylon and elastane build, they are machine washable at low temperatures, though some extra care ( like throwing them in a net ) should be taken with the garter belts to extend their longevity.

Conclusion
These are clearly the most beautiful harnesses you can buy today ( unless you’re really into leather, then it’s Aslan! ). So you can be sure they’ll blend right in with your gorgeous lesbian femme beauty!

Sure, they’re not as stable as the likes of Spareparts and they might cause some premature Os just by the sight of them, but you both will love them nonetheless!

Use our Strap-On-Me Coupon code TABOOLESS10 for 10% off!

Material
9
Features
8
Sensation
9
Pros
Comfortable
Absolutely gorgeous
Easy to clean
Plenty of different styles & Colors
Cons
Could be more stable
Can't accommodate double-ended dildos
8.7

 

Aslan Harnesses

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If you’re more into the old-school cool of leather harnesses, we’d argue that the only ones you will ever need are the Aslan Harnesses. They’re simply the best alternatives for those looking for the best strap-on for lesbians who also have a soft spot for that BDSM leather look!

We also love that almost all their models can be converted from Jockstrap to G-String style harnesses without much effort.

Want to give easy access to the good stuff? Switch to Jockstrap. Want a nice base to hold your “Strapless” dildos? Switch to G-String. One harness, all sorts of kinky possibilities.

These leather harnesses also come in all sorts of colors and we’re big fans of their Prince-themed purple harness. So strap on the Purple Rain Avant dildo, put on your Raspberry beret and Get off! ( If you can’t tell, Jim the Dildo Dealer is a big Prince fan ).

On the other hand, if you’re quite the minimalist, they also offer a few cheaper options like the leather Commando and the simple harness which is made Nylon straps. They’re stable but not the most comfortable harnesses you will find in their collection, so wearing some underwear under them will probably help.

Conclusion
If you’re all about that old school cool or just love BDSM swag, a great leather harness is a must. And if you go with Aslan, you’ll be sure to get the best leather strap-ons money can buy.

Material
9
Features
9.5
Sensation
8.5
Pros
Comfortable
Stable
Easy to clean
Nice variety of attachments & accessories
compatible with double dildo strap-on toys
Cons
Can't think of any
9

 


Strap-On Accessories & Toys

Grinding Toys

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If the top in your duo prefers external stimulation and feels a little left out, these strap-on toys will make any harness much more comfortable & pleasurable for them!

You see, these tiny grinding toys may not look like much, but they’re super versatile little lumps of squishy silicone.

These were originally invented to help women achieve discomfort-free masturbation. That’s why these super soft grinding toys are made of squishy silicone shaped to work harmoniously with the female anatomy. So if direct contact is uncomfortable for her during masturbation, this is a great non-penetrative toy to have.

But turns out, these can do much more than just help women with sensitive bits get off.

You see, a big issue with using strap-ons is that vigorous play almost always ends with beat-up mons for the person wearing the harness… and not that much external pleasure either!

This is where these grinding toys can help.

The Sili Saddles are made of beautifully marbled silicone and will stick to almost any dildo with a flat base providing some well-deserved cushioning to your poor abused pubic mounds.

The B.Cush is a very similar take from Banana Pants to the Sili Saddle, without the marbled silicone. While I’m a total marble nut, the plain colors are some found on many dildos, so they’ll blend easily with a nice range of toys. 

The Honeybunch and the Lippi work the same way, but also have a slot for a bullet vibrator! The Lippy is extra special because it can be penetrated by a clit much like a Fleshlight. The penetration is shallow, but still pillowy and satisfying nonetheless.

The Bumpher and Shagger are even more stable than any of the above toys as they are meant to stretch over the back of a dildo and stay secured that way.

If the dildo situation is a bit more complex ( suction cups, etc ), you can always secure these in a pair of panties and put the strap on over the whole getup. Of course, if you’re using a G-String or a brief-style strap-on, you could also just secure any grinding toy in there without needing to use any underwear to keep it in place.

All in all, these are truly underrated strap-on toys for couples looking to add a bit more comfort & pleasure to their play!

Fun fact: A lot of folks also use these to add some cushioning during bike rides ( especially with the sili-saddle shape ). So if you’re a bike-riding, strap-on-wielding lesbian, you really need this in your life.

Conclusion
Lesbian couples will mostly benefit from these grinders if they need some shock absorption during play with some additional external stimulation for the wearer.

But if any of you is very sensitive to the touch, these are also a great aid for making masturbation much more comfortable and pleasurable as well!

Material
9
Features
8.5
Sensation
8.5
Pros
Makes wearing a strap on much more pleasurable & comfortable
Can be used during masturbation
Easy to clean
Sanitizable
Cons
Can't think of any
8.7

 

“Strapless”/ Double Dildo Strap-on Toys

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Traditional double-ended dildos can definitely be tricky to work with, so what if you want a great lesbian double-ended dildo that doesn’t come with the shortcomings of the OG models? That’s where “Strapless” Strap-ons come in! 

But before we get into the fun, as you may have noticed, up to this point, every time we’ve written “Strapless” it was never without quotation marks.

That’s because we can’t stress enough that these are NOT made to be used without a strap-on.

While some really powerful kegel kung fu masters might be able to hold onto these with only the strength of their vaginal walls, most of us puny humans won’t be able to achieve such feats. Especially when things get real wet and slippery!

This doesn’t mean these toys aren’t great, quite the opposite. It only means that they’re victims of consistent false advertising.

You see, the real thrill with these double dildos is that they provide internal stimulation to both the wearer and the receiver. So if you’d like some penetration of your own during your strap-on sessions, these are well worth considering.

It’s also the only type of strap-on dildos that’ll give you instant feedback during play. I’d even argue that it’s almost like having a dick yourself!

Of course, if you don’t enjoy vigorous pressure on your G-Spot, these probably won’t do it for you.

Also, most of the models offered come with some pretty lackluster vibrators. So we highly suggest investing in something like the powerful Tango by We-Vibe so the vibrations actually do something instead of being dampened by all that silicone.

Now that the disclaimers are out of the way, here are some of the most popular models:

 

Strapless by Tantus

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If you’ve heard about “Strapless” dildos, chances are you know about the Feeldoes & Realdoes. Well, the Strapless by Tantus is their rebranding and update of their old Feeldoes.

While all the original models were rather rigid, the updated Strapless have more squish to them while still remaining stiff enough for being functional.

The Strapless Classic is non-realistic and has a matte finish which is a nice switch compared to the original’s slick, dust-collecting finish. Though you’ll want to use a little bit more lube to offset the extra drag if it’s uncomfortable for you.

The Real Strapless, on the other hand, is the realistic alternative, for those who prefer something a little more closer to reality.

Now, the updated Tantus Strapless, when compared to the Feeldoe/Realdoe, is a bit of a bittersweet upgrade.

That’s because the original models came in 4 sizes and multiple colors and skin tones. But with the Strapless update, you get two sizes, 1 skin tone, and two unrealistic colors, and the color depends on the size you pick.

They could’ve thrown in a better vibe for that price as well, but just like with the original, I say just ditch the vibes and get something stronger if you want to feel anything!

Still, the silicone is better than the original model so it’s not all bad. It’s just a weird one-step forward and two-step behind kind of situation.

 

Fun Factory Share & Sharevibe

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These Fun Factory toys are some of the most refined looking strapless dildos we’ve ever seen.
They all come with a silky smooth matte finish, so keep some extra lube close if you want to avoid drag.

Fun Factory’s options are also less rigid than the Feeldoes & Realdoes so it’s easier to hit all sorts of different angles while going down to plow town.

This can be a bit of a problem with the original Share since it has a tendency of dangling down when not supported. But it shouldn’t be that much of an issue when worn with a harness. This issue was also fixed with the Sharevibe’s new improved shape.

One thing worth considering is that the G-Spot end meant for the wearer is much larger than most other “Strapless” bulbs. So if girth is a problem for the lady in the relationship, this might not be the best option. Otherwise, if intense G-Spot stimulation is her thing, she will feel right at home.

On the other hand, the ShareVibe is even less phallic than the Original, and has a pretty decent Vibe included that is rechargeable and submersible underwater. But most importantly, the placement of the bullet vibe hole aligns perfectly with the wearers’ clitoris.

The big caveat is that the bullet vibe is much larger than your standard bullet.
So you won’t be able to fit the great rumbly Tango inside of your toy if you ever need an upgrade.

 

Tango by Fuze

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The Tango has a lot in common with the Sharevibe, it has a similar shape and Bullet placement ( no bullet included this time ) but, this time around, the G-Spot Bulb is much smaller. So it is perfect for a wearer who isn’t all about that girth.

As opposed to the Sharevibe, it is compatible with regular bullets as well as the amazing Tango Vibe… which probably explains the name of this double dildo!

It’s also not too rigid and not too soft, so if one of you prefers hard and the other soft, this is the perfect compromise. And as you may know, compromise is at the center of every healthy relationship!

 

Vixen Creations’ Nexus

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Regular readers know we’re suckers for Vixen Creations’ toys and these are no exception.

These are the squishiest double dildos on this list.

This means you can hit all sorts of crazy positions without straining your bits. Also, the middle of the toy sort of acts like an integrated Sili Saddle, preventing mons and tailbones to collide in a catastrophic fashion.

The insertable end meant for the wearer is also slimmer than any other G-Spot Bulbs on this entry. So it should be comfortable for most folks. But it might be underwhelming to some.

The Nexus come in 3 different sizes with the first two being the Unrealistic Junior and Senior.

The last size is the Peacemaker which sports a realistic and large 2-inch dildo on the receiving end. This large realistic option also comes in Caramel, Vanilla, and Chocolate.

So if you two dig big toys & don’t mind a realistic look, well, you’re welcome.

 

Strap-On-Me’s Vibrating Strap-on

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Now, this is where shit gets serious!

Strap-On-Me’s vibrating double-ended dildo features 3 rumbly motors that each can independently be controlled with a remote controller.

You get one vibe at the tip of the dildo, one on the clit, and one on the internal bulb. And they’re no slouches either as they deliver some pretty satisfying rumbles.

Each vibe has 3 patterns ( with the first one being constant uninterrupted vibrations ) and each pattern has 3 adjustable strengths. But do note that the strengths will be adjusted in unison throughout the entire toy, while patterns can be unique to the selected vibe. So both partners do have to agree on the intensity here.

Thankfully, the individual vibes can also be turned off with a long press. So if you need to give some of your ( or their ) parts a break, it’s easy to do so while keeping the party going elsewhere!

There are still direct controls on the lesbian strapless strapon itself, but the controls are far more limited. If I were you, I’d keep some batteries handy for the controller as this is the optimal way to operate this toy!

I also love that it can be fully adjusted thanks to a bendable yet strong wire inside the dildo.

This way you can find the perfect angle to get yourself or your partner off! 

Something that can be quite useful, especially when considering that there are no 2 vaginas & g-spots that are exactly the same.

This “strapless” double strap-on comes in 3 different sizes & colors and has a body almost entirely made of silicone.

The size choices are definitely welcome as they’ll fit you whether you’re a beginner or a professional size queen.

The material of the Vibrating Strap-on still is quite firm though, which is relatively normal for “strapless” strap-ons as it keeps them from flopping about. Though it is even truer for toys with this many vibes inside.

Being waterproof ( but not submersible ) is also handy for clean-up, squirters, and shower sex!

Though the plastic bit in the middle does introduce some seams, so a dedicated soft bristle toothbrush might be needed to fully clean those.

But all things considered, this is probably the best double “strapless” dildo of its kind!

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Strap-On-Me’s Multi Orgasm Strap-on

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This toy is just like the previous one, though this time it comes with a clit sucker, a bit more vibe power, and an extra smaller size! 

The clit sucker is a truly awesome addition, especially if the top in the couple has had difficulties reaching orgasm while using a strap-on in the past. Those suckers are well known for yanking orgasms right out of their users after all!

Lining up with the clit sucker during sex might be a little cumbersome at first. But with a snuggly fitting harness, and the slight adjustability offered by the flexible part that connects the bulb to the clit part, you should still be able to get things aligned up nicely!

The extra smaller size is also welcome, especially for women who prefer smaller sizes or particularly snug bums! Hopefully, they bring this smaller size to the vibrating model as well in the future!

Plus, when there’s no receiver around, the clit sucker/ vibrating bulb combo is perfect for solo masturbation. 

You’re really getting two toys in one with this one and clit suckers are almost universally loved so you’d be crazy not to indulge!

Bonus tip: The dildo end even acts like a joystick for zeroing in on your bits! Or at the least, it gives you something to grab onto as you hold on for deal life. 

Thanks to electromagnetic induction, this upgrade is also now fully submersible!

So this time you won’t have to limit your playtime to the shower. You can bring this one in the bath or the jacuzzi without a worry, you fancy sexy animals!

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Conclusion
While these toys aren’t really meant to be used without strap-ons, they are solid options for lesbian couples that both enjoy penetration.

If you were looking for a more traditional lesbian double-ended dildo,  I do cover those the best I can ( good body-safe versions are rare ) in our dedicated double-ended dildo article!

Material
9
Features
9
Sensation
9
Pros
Offers Vaginal ( and clitoral
depending on the model ) stimulation to the wearer
A lot of different models available
Some models have vibration as well
Easy to clean
Sanitizable
Cons
Doesn't work with all strap ons
9

 

Fuze & Wet for Her Dildos

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If the strap-on wearer isn’t too keen on penetration or just prefers clitoral stimulation in general, “strapless” dildos are probably the last thing they want to strap onto.

So if you felt left out in this land of abundant strapless dils, you can put those emotions aside since, as always, Jim the Dildo Dealer has your back.

The Fuze and Wet For Her Fusion dildos are meant to rub against the wearers’ clitoris as they thrust.

They are compatible with “strapless” / double dildo ready strap-ons like the Rodeoh, Aslan & Spareparts harnesses.

Both companies also offer plenty of different sizes and colors but there are some key differences.

The Fuze Dildos have non-realistic as well as realistic options and they come with a socket for a bullet vibe ( perfect for the great Tango ) that aligns perfectly with the wearers’ clitoris.

The Wet for her Fusion dildos are more minimalistic & they offer a bit fewer choices in terms of sizes and colors. They also don’t come with a bullet hole either.

But you will find their shape to be even less phallic than the non-realistic options from Fuze.

Conclusion
These dildos are perfect “Strapless” dildo alternatives for strap-on wearers who’d prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration.

Just keep in mind that if direct and/or vigorous pressure is uncomfortable for your clitoris, you’re probably better off using the Sili Saddle mentioned above instead.

Material
8.5
Features
9
Sensation
9
Pros
Offers clitoral stimulation to the wearer
A lot of different models available
Easy to clean
Sanitizable
Cons
Doesn't work with all strap ons
8.7

 


Honorable Mention

Liberator

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Liberator makes pillows, throws, ramps, and furniture built specifically for sexual intercourse. It’s the type of thing that once you get one, you really wonder where it’s been all your life.

All models are very easily cleaned. Their covers are removable and machine washable, so no need to change the entire set of sheets every time things get a bit intense.

Another great advantage is that they also make a lot of positions easier and less strenuous to achieve. So now you can simply enjoy the ride and stop building pillow forts between positions.

They make ramps and wedges made to align any strap-on-wielding gal’s appendage directly onto her significant other’s G-Spot.

Plus, the angle provided will work whether you’re on your back or on your belly!

If you want to keep things simple, their super soft, absorbent, and waterproof throws are also a lifesaver.

They’ll also work against whatever fluids you throw at them, may it be lube or your own.

I also love that they come in multiple colors and sizes.

Want to include dildosg-spot toys during play?

If they don’t have suction cups, the Bonbon & the Wing are perfect for that.

Whether you just want to watch the action or live up some threesome fantasies without including other people in the mix, these pillows will hold your toys in place without a hitch.

A fan of the unbelievable strength of the Magic Wand? 

You probably already know how unwieldy it is to use during intercourse.

Well, Liberator’s Axis and Wanda aim to fix that, giving you a hands-free and comfortable experience during sex or solo play.

Conclusion
Whether you want to use sex toys or not, sex just feels so much better when things are properly aligned and Liberator will make sure that it’s the case every time!
Material
9
Features
9
Sensation
9
Pros
Makes a lot of positions more comfortable
Keeps your bed clean
Toy holders allow for hands-free toy play
Removable covers for easy to clean up
Cons
Can't think of any
9

 

Dental Dam Harness

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Let’s face it, nobody likes dental dams. So much so that most gay women forgo protection entirely. 

Sadly, though it comes with its advantages, being gay doesn’t exempt you from catching something nasty.

It’s still a bit strange that there aren’t many better options available since dental dams are far from being perfect. I mean, they were really made for dentists after all. 

That’s exactly why Stockroom started making this great leather harness!

I’m happy to say that it solves most problems that usually come with standard dental dams:

  1. You no longer have to hold the dams in place, freeing up your hands for more important matters. 
  2. There’s snaps for both the front and the back, so it doesn’t matter if you’re an a cunnilingus or anilingus kind of girl!
  3. It actually looks hot! 

It’s good to know that the maximum waist size on these harnesses is 34″. But since these harnesses are custom made by the fine folks at the Stockroom, I’m sure that if you contact them you could get a custom size done!

Lorals Dental dam alternatives

If you’re not that into that harness look ( and if you keep your pubic hair extra short ) you might also like Lorals.

They’re essentially condom panties! The lack of snaps also makes them better suited for grinding and so on.

They look and feel great just as long as you don’t keep your pubes au naturel since these guys are known to rip hairs right off your body.

Conclusion
This harness looks so good and is so well designed that it almost makes the idea of a dental dam an appealing one! And if that can prevent a few STIs in the process, this is definitely a great accomplishment!
Material
9
Features
9
Sensation
9
Pros
Holds dental dams in place for you
Snaps for both the front and the back
Makes dental dams look appealing
Cons
For waistlines of 34 inches max though if you e-mail them you can probably get custom sizing
Snaps makes it a bit uncomfortable for grinding
9