Strap yourself in, we’re going shopping for the best strap-on harnesses we can get our hands on!
When we think of hot sex toys or sexual accessories, harnesses often get overlooked by the general public.
It’s only when someone’s in the heat of the moment that they realize how good it would be to actually have one. Maybe you’re making out with your longterm partner when all of a sudden he admits he has a fantasy of you fucking him and pulling his hair. Dang, wouldn’t it have been great to have a harness ready?
Or you’re out with your new cute date, and even though you have a no-fucking-on-the-first-date policy… they’re giving you all the signals and you’re feeling ready. Oh crap, you left your bulky but dependable harness at home! If only you had something wearable and could accommodate your favourite pack-and-play dick like the Rodeoh or the Coconuts harnesses!
Never fear, Tabooless is here!
Also, make sure to see our guide on what lubes to use as well as how to clean your toys to avoid any complications.
With that being said, here are some of the best strap-on harness options on the market, not necessarily from worst to best, because everyone’s needs and budgets are different!
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Best leather strap-on harness |
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Most feature-packed brief-style harness |
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Best performing strap-on harness |
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Gorgeous femme lingerie harnesses |
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Super comfortable brief-style strap-on |
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Most stable brief-style harness |
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Best suction cup dildo harness |
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Super affordable kit with great toys and an ok harness |
Jaguar by Aslan
You never forget your first, especially when it’s as beautiful as the Aslan Jaguar. I remember putting the harness on for the first time, and I felt powerful.
The Jaguar is made from supple but sturdy leather, and it’s an absolute treat to wear.
This isn’t a strap you could necessarily wear out for dinner and a movie before heading back home, but more of a cherry on top of your funday, you know?
I would say this is possibly one of the hottest, most gender neutral harnesses on the list. I never fail to feel really fucking hot while wearing this, and that’s a huge statement because I do not often feel hot (except body-temperature, thanks global warming).
The Jaguar comes in multiple colors like black, purple, and (my favorite) cherry red. Is leather not your thing, but you love the aesthetic? The Aslan Jaguar also comes in vegan leather!
The downsides of the harness is: if you’re planning on fucking hard or for a long time, you’ll want to add some padding to your dildo using something like the bases from Banana Pants. Not only do they help pad your pelvis, but they add a level of stimulation for the wearer that can be so often overlooked!
If you’re planning on using this with multiple partners, be aware that leather cannot be washed in the same way that other materials can be ( Here’s a quick and dirty guide on how to clean leather! ). They require a little extra care as well!
This is the harness for you if: you want a leather/pleather harness that makes you feel unbelievably hot.
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Tomboii by SpareParts
Imagine a sexy pair of comfortable cargo pants where everything you need is within reach, tucked away in roomy pockets–now what if those cargos were a harness meant for the best sex of your life? This describes the Tomboii line of harnesses from SpareParts.
The Tomboii line is different from your traditional harness styles of yesteryears; instead of a leather harness that looks like a jock strap, it’s modelled after underwear and is incredibly comfortable.
The Tomboii comes in two styles, briefs and boxer briefs and look exactly like your average pair of athletic briefs.
The only big difference between the two is that the Tomboii ( boxer ) has two O-ring placements, so depending on your preference and build, you can choose whether you prefer your dildo higher up or lower… or use two dildos at a time!
With this harness, you’ve got pockets for everything, including little places to store lube or a bullet vibrator. It’s absolutely packed with features!
They’re waterproof, so they’re perfect for a lube-drenched night without worrying about feeling gooey or sticky lube seeping through from one person to another.
The only downside to the Tomboii harness is that the stretchiness of the material can sometimes mean the dildo you’re using isn’t as firmly attached to your body. In a traditional harness like the Aslan Jaguar, your harness is tight and flush against your skin allowing for more control over the toy while thrusting. The Tomboii can sometimes require a bit of help if you’re thrusting hard!
I would also discourage someone from wearing these as everyday underwear, as the material is a bit warm since it’s water-resistant. Don’t give yourself swamp crotch!
This is the harness for you if: you want a comfortable harness that you can wear as underwear before a hookup date where you’ll want everything within reach.
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Joque by SpareParts
This is a harness that needs no introduction.
If you’re here right now searching out the best straps on the internet, you’re no doubt familiar with the Joque strap, one of the most revered harnesses on the market.
Made by the same company as the Tomboii, this is the perfect harness if you like all the bells and whistles that the Tomboii offers but would prefer a jockstrap style harness that isn’t so covered up.
It basically solves all the problems a traditional harness & underwear harness might have.
Plus, instead of straps with buckles, it’s velcro that you can adjust to your exact size.
Of course, it comes with all the pockets and sneaky little hideaway bullet spots necessary to keep your romp going and going for as long as you do.
I don’t know someone who owns this harness and doesn’t love it!
This is the harness for you if: you’d rather be as commando as possible, with full control of your toy, and with as many pockets legally allowed on a strap harness.
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Strap-On-Me Strap-Ons
I was excited to receive and test out the harnesses from Strap-On-Me! They have some incredibly interesting designs to offer, and could be a more affordable but quality option for people who are looking for their ideal harness!
The Curious Harness: this truly is a curiosity! The fabric is a kind of metallic vinyl that gives off incredibly trendy Y2K vibes, but really make it a memorable style (and makes me feel a bit like a superhero or like I’m wearing boxing trunks).
The Curious harness also includes an extra belt so that you can adjust it to your perfect size. If you don’t need the extra room, don’t toss the belt! It doubles as a restraint, perfect for wrists or legs or a magic wand to a thigh perhaps. The O-ring can’t be removed, which might be a downside of the harness especially if you have particularly big toys you want to use with it. It’s easiest to remove the entire harness in order to change toys, which might be a bit annoying for some. Regardless, this is a unique harness that might be an interesting alternative to the Joque.
The Lingerie Rebel Harness: do you have a fantastically femme person in your life who would want to wear something as comfortable as the Rodeoh boxers, but with all the delicateness of a garter belt and thigh highs? This is the one to grab!
It’s comfortable, buttery soft, and fits well. I especially like how high cut the thong is, especially in the front.Too often lingerie can be made so low-cut that it feels cheap and uncomfortable, but this one makes me feel like some kind of erotic illustration. Also, the waistband is double the width of a normal waist band, so it doesn’t dig into your belly or love handles, especially with use! I really loved this harness!
The Generous Harness: It should have been called the “gorgeous” harness, it’s really pretty! The Generous is made with vegan leather, yet it still somehow feels velvety soft and not stiff like some pleathers can feel. I love the moody blue color as well, it doesn’t feel like it’s gendered towards women, even if the site doesn’t necessarily emphasize it. It feels like a traditional leather harness with removable O-rings to accommodate different toys.
And they have many more strap-on harness models to pick from! This is only a sampler of what they have to offer.
A slight caveat that does not impact my experience of the products: as a trans man, I try to keep in mind that not all toys are accessible to other trans people, especially those with significant dysphoria. I feel like I have to mention that the company’s language and branding is clearly very focused on cis women, and that’s okay, but could cause some trans men to feel uncomfortable.
These are chic and flattering products regardless of which style you choose, but you won’t find any full brief or boxer-style harnesses here.
I’m also not a fan of the phrasing sometimes used on the site. Harnesses are described as giving women a “transgressive look”, and which implies that women with penises have “transgressive looks”? The language on the branding is also very ciscentric.
This is the harness for you if: you’re looking for a comfortable, feminine alternative to popular “underwear” style harnesses or if you’re looking for a more affordable vegan alternative to leather or velcro jockstrap harnesses.
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Rodeoh Strap-On Harnesses
The arguable favorite of trans mascs & tomboys everywhere, here comes the Rodeoh harness!
What I love about the Rodeoh harnesses is that they’re fantastically comfortable.
Even just as briefs to wear when you’ve forgotten to do the laundry and just ran out of skivvies.
The Rodeoh boxers come in a huge variety of prints and styles, and are absolutely wearable just as underwear. If you’re looking for a harness that you can wear on a date where you’re already packing a strapon or a pack-and-play prosthetic… these are one of the best on the market.
The benefit of the Rodeoh harness is that they’re basically just underwear that doubles as a harness. The downside is that, because the fabric has to be comfortable and stretchy for wear as underwear, it can’t be as taunt or firm as many traditional harnesses can be. It might require you to have a hand placed firmly around the base of whatever toy in order to keep it steady while in use, or in specific positions.
This is the harness for you: if you want a very comfortable and fashionable pair of underwear that doubles as a strap harness!
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Coconuts by Banana Prosthetics
I will say something slightly controversial: I think I prefer the Coconuts to the Rodeoh harness. Please don’t fight me, I have weak bones and bruise easily!
I know them are fightin’ words, but after putting both to the test, I feel that the Coconuts success is also possibly a downside for others.
Basically, the Coconuts are not as stretchy and soft as the Rodeoh harness, or other brief-style harnesses, making them much more stable in the process.
This makes them a bit less comfortable than the Rodeoh harnesses (which are heavenly soft, seriously), but makes them have more control with a toy because of that very same reason.
They’re designed to fit a larger prosthetic, so if you want to use your favorite prosthetic with this, it’s perfect!
This is the harness for you: if you want to wear your dick prosthetic or dildo with comfortable boxer briefs that are a bit more sturdy for control.
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Body Dock Strap-On
This design surprised me. Out of all the styles I’ve seen for harnesses, this one is completely new!
The Body Dock serves a very specific function: when nearly every silicone dildo has a suction cup, how the hell are you supposed to use them in a harness?
You get one of these and slap ‘em on the big silicone disk at the front.
Personally, I knew exactly which toys I wanted to use them with. I have been blessed to own enough thrusting machines like the Naked Addiction Demon Noir or the Velvet Thruster, and I have always thought it would be amazing to use them in a harness with a partner.
In my opinion, I think the quality of the straps could be a bit better. They’re not completely comfortable compared to other styles on this list, but the harness as a whole is unique enough that I think it solves an important problem.
This is the harness for you: if you have a plethora of toys with suction cups that don’t comfortably fit other harnesses.
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Tantus Strap-On Harness Kit
While I love the idea of these kits, I’m not a huge of them in practice. The harnesses that are included are often cheaply made, incredibly flimsy, and offer nothing of benefit for the wearer. The Tantus harness has tried to innovate on that a little bit, even if it isn’t the first harness I’d reach for.
The ultimate upside to this kit is the toys included ( other than the affordable bundle price ):
Tantus makes some great silicone dildos, and having two included in this pack is perfect especially for people who are first getting into pegging or who prefer a slimmer dildo.
What it also does well is that it has more padding at the base than most of these harness kits come with. This doesn’t seem that important until your poor pelvic bones are crushed to pieces like sticks of chalk in a mortar and pestle. Having a little bit of padding really helps!
It also includes a slim pocket for an included bullet vibe. The bullet vibe is pretty standard, but the fact that they thought, “hey, what if we added a little vroom vroom for the person who’s doing the fucking?” is smart!
This is the harness for you: if you’re just trying out pegging for the first time, or just want those two fantastic included toys to use with other harnesses!
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We would like to thank Peepshow Toys, Strap-On-Me, Banana Prosthetics, Tantus, and Rodeoh for sending us the prosthetics and harnesses included in this review. This roundup wouldn’t’ve been possible without their help!
