We’ve all been there. You’ve spent months in front of your online shopping cart, prepared to hit “Buy”, except–well, you’re not sure.
How big is too big? Do you need a wifi controllable sex toy, or is Bluetooth enough? Is it better to go with silicone, glass, metal, or this jelly rubber?
When sex toys can be so pricey and impossible to return if they don’t work, it’s important to take your time with what you buy.
So turn to the experts, fellow readers! I don’t want to toot my own horn, but I’ve been a seasoned toy freak for almost–uh, 20 years. (Yes, I am unc. No, I’m not a boomer.) From the tame to the lame, I’ve seen my fair share of toys, and I want to help you make the best decision for yourself and your playmates.
My goal is simple: to provide you with a charcuterie board of body-safe, beginner-friendly options that can satisfy as many desires as possible!
I place a huge emphasis on “body-safe” because sex toys aren’t always made out of the best materials to go spelunking in your inner sanctums. Materials like jellies, rubbers, or other goops can hold onto bacteria or even leach out onto your skin or mucus membranes.
Do you really want that near your unmentionables? I didn’t think so.
Also, make sure to see our guide on what lubes to use as well as how to clean your toys to avoid any complications.
With all that out of the way, here are the best sex toys for beginners, so let’s get on with it!
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Strong, aesthetic, & affordable bullet vibrator big enough to be used as a beginner internal vibe |
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Classic, simple, small, but very powerful bullet vibrator |
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Cheap, soft, and gentle disposable grinder for your clit |
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Great silicone a grinders and/or protection while using strap-ons |
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Powerful G-spot vibrator that doubles as a great small clitoral wand |
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The best of the viral rose toys and a great introduction to suction/air-pulse toys |
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Small, flirty egg-style app-controlled vibrator that can be worn |
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Small but not boring squishy silicone beginner dildo |
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Small fantasy beginner dildo models without the Godzilla-like girth |
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Multi-use, affordable & disposable Penis Stroker Toy |
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Best squishy beginner butt plug models if you want to try butt stuff for the first time |
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Tiny beginner anal plug with LED light & app control |
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Small powerful app-controlled vibrating beginner butt plug you can grow with |
Blush Limited Addiction
What if you’re someone who wants a bullet vibrator, but one that isn’t so small that it can’t be used internally? Not only that, but you want an excellent rumbly toy that isn’t boring like all those other basic vibrators of yesteryear?
Let me introduce you to the Blush Limited Addiction line of vibrators. They’re entirely body-safe plastic in a lightly textured coating that is as gorgeous as it is powerful.
Pick your champion, readers! Do you want a rumbly bullet vibrator that’s psychedelic looking, or would you rather have a cottagecore slimline vibrator that can be used internally? Both are waterproof, rechargeable, and easy to pack in an overnight bag or tucked away in a nightstand.
Sure, they’re seriously powerful toys, but they’re also really fun. The Blush Limited Addiction is as playful as you want your solo or partnered sex to be; they’re not intimidating and are perfect for someone’s first toy.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated bullet vibe article here!
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We-Vibe Tango
With every exciting dildo, grinder, and rose suction toy on the market these days, a standard bullet vibrator can come off as less than thrilling. Why bother with something like an external vibe when you could get something that is essentially a Dyson vacuum for your clit?
Having said that, there’s something classic and long-lasting about toys that are simple in design but expansive in pleasure possibilities! I’m convinced that people are bored with bullet vibes or look down on them because they’ve only ever tried those cheaper ones that people pass around at a bachelorette party.
Are you looking for one of the strongest bullet vibes you can get? The We-Vibe Tango vibes are incredibly rumbly and powerful, perfect for clit or nipple stimulation, or to stimulate a partner with a dick.
The X version also has a silicone coating near the buttons so that it’s easier to hold and control, especially when wet. Though it won’t fit as well into bullet holes as the Classic version, if you’re looking to bring those vibes to other compatible toys.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated bullet vibe article here!
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Iroha Petit
Grinders are a relatively new type of sex toy, so it’s totally reasonable if you’re unfamiliar with them.
You should get to know them, though! They’re a fantastic option to consider, especially for people looking for a non-vibration toy for their external stimulation. It doesn’t have to be all bullet vibes and suction toys, folks!
The Iroha Petit is a delightful little gemstone of a toy. It’s like a Ring Pop but for your clit, does that make sense? It’s a softly textured, candy-like disposable toy that you can rub against a clitoris, or any area that would appreciate smooth stimulation like that.
If you’ve been seeing all these gorgeous and artistic grinders on the market now, but are unsure if that style of toy would suit your needs, consider giving the Iroha Petit a try! (You can even stick them in the freezer before using them for a bit more firmness, and temperature play.)
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated grinder sex toy article here!
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Banana Pants Grinders
So you’re a diehard fan of grinding and have been trying to find something more fun than a pillow to hump. You’re in luck, because Banana Pants creates some of the most accessible grinders right now. They have multiple styles and textures, you’re absolutely bound to find something to fit your preferences.
Not only are they great for masturbation, but they’re also meant to be used for partnered sex with a dildo.
Do you ever find yourself bruised or tender after a fantastic night fucking with a harness and strap? Or have you ever wished that you could also enjoy full stimulation and sensations while your girl rides your new monster dick? This is exactly the right toy for you.
I adore Banana Pants; they truly make some of the best grinders/dildo bases I have been lucky enough to try.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated grinder sex toy article here!
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Pillow Talk Sassy
Is your pillow princess looking for the G-spot toy of her dreams? Grant all her wishes with the Pillow Talk Sassy, a cute but rumbly vibrator that will have her toes curling with delight.
It can be hard to find a pretty toy nowadays that is affordable and powerful. This is the ideal toy for you if you’re specifically trying to find a G-spot stimulating vibe that’s quite firm, quite powerful, and is also really cute.
Or maybe you’re not entirely sure what you like just yet, that’s okay! This toy doesn’t have to be exclusively used for the G-spot, but can also be used as an external vibe for your clit (or any other part that needs vibration).
The Pillow Talk Sassy has one single bejeweled button; it’s adorable but also novel! If you want to increase the speed of your vibe, you just have to hold it down, and it’ll go faster until you’ve been thoroughly satisfied.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated G-spot toy article here!
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Viben Zen Rose
Look, I know I just dunked on the rose suction vibes… but in all honesty, the Viben Zen Rose is fantastic. It’s so simple but so powerful! I basically reach for this toy as my ol’ reliable, more than any others in my toy chest. I went from rose hater to rose skeptic.
Why skeptic? Well, not all rose toys are made the same, especially if you have a larger-than-average clit. For a trans guy, finding a rose toy with a large enough opening is nearly impossible and often leaves someone feeling frustrated (both sexually and regularly). It’s not just trans people who need a larger to,y either! I’m convinced that a lot of people who don’t enjoy this toy might just not enjoy a toy that pinches them in all the wrong places.
So if you’re looking to test your cynicism around the all-too-popular rose toy, try the one from Viben Zen Rose. The size of the nozzle is much larger than traditional ones on the market, so you’ll never have to worry.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated air-pulse toy article here!
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Lovense Lush Mini
When people think of a “wearable vibrator”, it’s toys like the Lovense Lush that come to mind. They’re the quintessential vibrator-to-go, worn in every smutty romance book between some kinky oil baron and his gorgeous sex noob girlfriend with the brown hair.
Oh, sex kitten, he growls into her ear, I’m going to make you wear this while you buy yourself another Louis Vuitton g-string (I don’t know what rich people or heterosexuals are into ).
What I do know, however, is that while wearable vibrators like these seem easy to wear… they can sometimes be a bit more noticeable than desired. Walking into a grocery store with one of these in can seem all fun and games until you’re three aisles in and ready to pull it out because you’re sore.
The Lovense Lush mini solves these problems by being significantly smaller than their usual go-to wearable, the regular-sized Lush. I’m not a big fan of extreme G-spot pressure, so a toy like this makes it much more fun and comfortable to wear and therefore more likely to be played with.
While the Lush is reduced in size, it’s not reduced in power. The vibrations are incredibly strong, and still pretty darn quiet. You can connect your Lush Mini to their app and have the vibrator controlled by either yourself or anyone in the world you give access to. It’s pretty fantastic, especially if you have a long-distance partner (or just a lazy partner, who knows!)
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated vibrating panties & wearable vibrator article here!
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Avant Pride P3
Psst, do you want to know a secret? There’s a glorious hole in the market for silicone dildos. That’s right! It’s hard to imagine that in a world where you can get almost everything dildo-afied (corn, dragons, statues), there’s such a thing in a niche not yet explored.
But it’s true! The rare gem? The world is missing small and humble dildos that aren’t boring or too clinical. There’s barely anything out there that isn’t a simple cylinder. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with those, especially for people who are just getting started or need something slim due to a health condition–but does everything have to be essentially a silicone hot-dog?
If you’re looking for something with a little bit more oomph, check out the Avant Pride P3. Yes, it’s a lesbian pride flag, but you don’t have to be a lesbian to enjoy this sweet ride. It’s a little bit thicker than the smallest dildos on the market, but it’s not boring. The silicone is grippy, so feel free to be liberal with your lube, and enjoy! It’s squishy, yet firm enough to be easily used for anal as well. Enjoy!
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated small dildo article here or one of our many dildo articles over there!
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Uberrime Phantasia & Mr. Hankey’s XS
It seems like everyone is into fucking monsters lately, and for good reason. Monsters are hot, fictitious, and known for their ravenous lust–vampires seduce, werewolves are feral, and swamp things have all those tentacles. Erotica is making monsters more and more accessible, and sex toys have sadly gatekept their creature toys behind a big “NO NEWBIES” allowed sign.
The Uberrime Phantasia First Time Fantasy Dildos are your keys into the magical kingdom. They’re modestly-sized, sleek, and extremely customizable. From the Lunaris Werewolf Knot to the textured Oceanus tentacle, there’s really a fantasy dildo to match every romantasy book you’ve been reading. I was blown away by their Lunaris Werewolf Knot, which turned me from a skeptic to a full-moon believer–I even brought it with me to an all-night sex party, and I know it turned some heads from the design as well.
Mr Hankey’s Toys are infamous for their designs: they’re impressive, memorable, and often known for being monstrously large. They’re renowned for that because they do large toys incredibly well! However, they’ve answered the prayers and supplications of their audience, and launched a line of smaller toys for people who are not fully ready to take an ogre-sized cock (yet). They even have a Double Dildo with two dicks that’s smaller than a can of soda for all those people who wanted Edward and Jacob.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated fantasy dildo article here!
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Tenga Eggs
If you’ve ever stepped foot in a sex shop (online or off), you’ve no doubt seen these intriguing little eggs. Take my advice: next time you see one and have a little extra change, buy one!
The Tenga Eggs are an extremely stretchy toy, initially made to fit over a cock for enhanced hand-jobs. The insides of the Tenga Eggs are covered in raised patterns, bumps, or wiggles that provide additional stimulation to a dick while a hand keeps it moving up and down (or side to side, I don’t know what you’re into). While they’re made to be disposable, many people wash them with soap and water to get a couple more uses out of them.
One of the best parts of the Tenga Eggs is that you can actually flip them inside out with the textured side facing outwards, and then fit it over the head of a wand-style vibrator (like the revolutionary Magic Wand). This adds so much more excitement to an already phenomenal experience, allowing the Tenga Eggs to be used on pretty much any body or genital configuration.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated penis stroker article here!
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SquarePegToys Egg Plug
Has it been a secret (or not so secret) interest of yours to try butt stuff? Maybe you know that psychologically you’re there and into it, but(t) want to be careful and prudent so you don’t hurt yourself or your partner?
If you have no experience with anal play in any way, put down the huge rubber dongs or tapered spade-shaped plugs! They’re not bad, but sometimes they are a bit too much too soon.
A toy like the Sparepeg Egg Plug is an ideal toy for the aspiring anal aficionado, especially considering it comes in nine different sizes. It’s just firm enough to not have to squirm it into your body, but squishy enough that it doesn’t feel rock hard.
Plus, the anchor-shaped base means that it’s often much more comfortable than a typical round or square base, while providing the best safety. (Remember the rule: all anal toys need a base that is at least 20% larger than the widest part of the toy so it doesn’t go for a ride up inside you!)
Another excellent pick if you’re ready to progress in size or aren’t a total beginner is the Gape Keeper line from Topped Toys.
These are some of my favorites on the market. I’m a huge fan of them and have yapped to nearly anyone about them. They’re incredibly squishy, which means that it’s large enough to feel substantial without being too firm that it feels like you’re fucking a statue.
Work your way up to bigger toys, but for anal, a little goes a long way!
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated butt plug article here!
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Lovense Lush Anal
Lovense has finally answered my prayers (but ignored my constant emails–joking!).
As someone who loves a good vibrating toy with range, I was always smitten with the strong and powerful Lovense Lush toys. They feel incredible, have one of the best smartphone apps possible on the market, and are extremely well designed. I mean, just look at it! It’s adorable.
However, my preference for penetration is usually for butt stuff. I might be a trans guy, but I’m still a queer guy, and buttstuff is kind of what we’re known for. No matter what the impulsive thoughts tell you, you absolutely cannot use the Lovense Lush vaginal vibes in your butt. So when was Lovense finally going to make the dreams of every anal aficionado come true? Finally, a sign. They did it, and it’s great!
This is a toy to take to a sex club, or wear around the house while your partner or hot stranger can tease you into oblivion.
The goal of the Lush Anal isn’t to overwhelm your senses with size or girth or length, but to create a vibrating plug that can be kept internally so that people can enjoy the vibrations longer.
Plus, the LED light on the tail definitely gives extra points to the sex club angle.
If you’re trying to decide between the Lovense Hush and the Lush Anal, I can help!
The first major difference is the size and shape of the plug: the Hush is a typical spade shape that will give the wearer some volume and sensation of fullness, whereas the Lush Anal is much slimmer and EVEN more beginner-friendly. At roughly the size of a pinky finger or a bullet vibrator, it’s going to be a much more comfortable fit for someone with little experience with anal.
Both have incredible motors, but the Lush Anal definitely feels more “buzzy” than the Hush. I think it’s due to the slightly thicker silicone of the Hush, while the Lush Anal is slimmer, so the whole device vibrates from tip to base.
If I had to break it down very simply, I’d say the Hush is for someone who is a regular butt player and wants a plug with a strong motor, while the Lush Anal is better suited for someone who is totally new to buttstuff or wants to add vibrations to playtime without the fullness of a regular plug.
I can see this as being a perfect plug for any camgirls who would want the experience of having an interactable vibrator that can easily integrate with their stream while also not having to be a vag-only toy. It’s ideal for people who prefer anal or just anyone who wants to have the Lush Anal vibrating while riding a toy.
The possibilities are truly endless!
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Lovense Hush 2
Lovense has some of the best wifi and Bluetooth-controlled vibrators and toys you can own, and for good reasons. Not only are they straightforward to operate, but they come in every style you might want. In a day and age where cyber sex is becoming more and more advanced, and sometimes necessary in long-distance relationships, this is a huge plus.
Nothing is more synonymous with Bluetooth control than the butt plug. Nowadays, it seems like everyone’s using them: from cam models, to flirty swingers at the nightclub, to chess players… you can’t swing a charging cable without hitting someone who is literally buzzing from one.
If you know that you like anal, and especially a firmer toy, that starts small and you can grow with, check out Lovense’s Hush line.
The Lovense Hush comes with one of the best Smartphone apps on the market for any “smart” sex toy. You can program patterns, control it through music, or, with some finagling, you can connect it to a cam site. It’s reliable, fun, and takes the toys’ incredibly powerful vibrations to a custom level that is truly personalized.
Looking for more options or upgrades to go from beginner to pro? Check out our dedicated vibrating butt plug article here!
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We would like to thank Peepshow Toys, We-Vibe, Banana Pants, Iroha, Uberrime, and Lovense for sending us the sex toys for beginners included in this review. This roundup wouldn’t have been possible without their help!
