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Let's face it, a LDR ( Long distance relationship ) is a tough thing to manage.
Thankfully, the internet and our smartphones have made connecting from any distance much easier than ever before. Facetime and Skype let us spend some time face to face. SMS and a variety of chat apps can keep the day to day conversations going. And with social media, it's easier than ever to stay up to date with the lives of our loved ones.
But one of the main reasons many relationships fail, distant or not, is due to a lack and/or dissatisfaction with sex. Something that can be even more prevalent in a LDR. Of course, sex isn't everything. But as sex therapist and couple counselor Megan Fleming, PhD puts it:
“When sex is going well in a relationship, it’s usually a small part of a relationship. But when it’s not going well, unfortunately, it can cast a shadow on the relationship as a whole”
Sadly, beyond sexting and sharing some lewd pictures and videos, there isn't much we can do about it when we can't physically reach out and touch one another. So if you ever wondered how you can make long distance sex closer to the real deal, you're in the right place, my friend!
Coming up is the best teledildonics toys available today (as well as some other toys and tools) that are going to help you make LDR sex better than ever possible before!
With that being said, here’s our top 11 list of the best long distance relationship sex toys & teledildonic devices, not necessarily from worst to best, because everyone’s needs and budgets are different.
Teledildonics / Long Distance Sex Toys
Lovense is one of the rare companies out there that specializes in long distance sex toys almost exclusively. And when it comes to teledildonics, they also offer some of the most affordable quality options out there.
Their App comes with ton of functionality, allowing you to, of course, control each other's toys at any distance. But it also gives you the possibility to customize your vibrations and patterns to your liking, sync them to music and much more.
It's even possible to video chat through the app, giving you the controls and video feed all in one place. Though nothing stops you from using Skype or Facetime instead as well.
All that functionality means they're perfect to use in the privacy of your own home or even while out and about!
Their best-selling toy is the Lush.
Meant to be used vaginally, it provides tons of deep rumbles that'll reverberate through you like little pleasure quakes.
The bulb-like insertable end of the toy is perfectly shaped to stimulate the g-spot but it also works quite well as an external toy also.
On the other hand, the tail end acts as the antenna. So make sure to avoid putting the antenna between your legs, or in your butt crack, Otherwise, it'll be hard for the signal to reach its destination since Bluetooth doesn't go through flesh.
If you enjoy anal sex, then you will love the Hush.
It's a powerful vibrating butt plug with rumbles akin to the lush.
It comes in two different sizes with one being 1.5 inches and the other being at 1.75 inches at their widest point. When comes to length, both are just short of 4 inches. This means that it might not be the best choice for beginners, but it should satisfy most folks with a bit of experience under their belt.
Understandably, if you'd rather have something a bit smaller, the next entry will be perfect for you!
For the prostate, the Edge is pretty hard to beat.
Just like the other models, it offers some pretty strong vibrations. With 2 motors, it vibrates on both the perineum and the prostate.
Our favorite feature is the adjustable prostate arm. Not a single prostate is the same, so if you've ever had issues in the past with the fit of your prostate stimulators, this is a life-changer!
Lovense has even more toys to its roster, but in our humble opinion, these are the most popular and worthwhile options offered. Still, have a look at their site and you might find something you like. Just avoid their Nora and Max if you're looking for an even more intimate option. There's a much better alternative coming up in this very list!
We-Vibe's been a favorite company of ours for the longest time. Especially thanks to the Tango, a rumbly bullet vibrator, that has become the standard for tons of toy connoisseurs around the world. Since then, they've had quite a few successes that are almost as iconic as their original hit, including some pretty amazing long-distance sex toys.
We-Vibe's take on teledildonics has a lot in common with Lovense's.
They offer almost identical app controls and ways of interacting with each other's toys.
But what makes their selection of teledildonic devices stand out is how much more refined and innovative they are compared to Lovense's more classic take on sex toys. And this extends even to the quality of their We-Connect app.
On top of being some excellent LDR sex toys, almost all of the sex toys mentioned in this entry are amazing solo or couples toys as well. So you will definitely get a lot of extra mileage outside of the long-distance thrills they might offer.
Their flagship toy is a versatile & powerful couple's toy called the Sync.
The Sync is made to clamp onto the vagina in a way that provides vibrations both to the clitoris and the G-Spot simultaneously.
This handy shape is great for hands-free play, but it is also made to be used during penetration as well. This means that you can still use a dildo with the toy inserted. You could also use it with your partner's appendage ( flesh or silicone ) once you finally reunite! And if he's of the opposite sex, he'll also be able to enjoy some vibrations of his own!
Another huge plus and improvement to the sync is its now fully adjustable body. And with not one vagina being like the other, this is a god-send.
Sadly, this is the only toy in their collection that comes with the "Beat" functionality. So if you really want to sync your toy with music, this is your only choice.
The Ditto is a much smaller equivalent to Lovense's Hush.
So if you're still just starting out with anal sex, this is definitely your guy!
Another neat feature is the asymmetrical design of the plug, allowing prostate owners to get some extra pressure and stimulation than what a normal butt plug would usually provide! Of course, it isn't as intense as the Lovense Edge, but it's also much smaller, so perfect if you're only starting out.
They also offer the great Rave, an extremely powerful asymmetrical g-spot toy.
The asymmetrical silicone shape pushes you to explore every possible angle it offers. Meaning that traditional g-spot prying motions still feel great but twisting motions works just as well! Something that'll give a well-deserved break to your poor tired wrists, switching up the routine as you go.
It also doubles as a pretty amazing clit toy if used as a wand. We'd even argue that it is the most powerful handheld toy that isn't an actual Wand.
The only downside is that it's one of their rare toys that isn't fully submersible underwater. So if you were planning on giving your significant other a steamy bath sex show, this definitely won't be the toy for the job. Shower shows are still going to work just fine though.
This is only the tip of the iceberg since We-Vibe offers tons of quality teledildonic toys.
With our favorites out of the way, some other standouts are the innovative Nova, ( one of the rare dual-stimulation toys I ever suggest ) and the powerful and comfortable Pivot cock-ring ( which is probably the only app-enabled cock ring ever ).
So needless to say that browsing their entire library is definitely worth a shot!
So if you can afford the upgrade, it's definitely worth your money.
Pearl 2 & Fuse by Kiiroo + The Fleshlight Launch
This combo provides the closest thing to actual long-distance sex!
Kiiroo and Fleshlight's collaborative effort is definitely the best way to have penetrative sex with your significant other from any distance. This is thanks to the motions sensors found on their teledildos, as they allow to replicate every single back and forth motion onto your partner's device.
And these toys don't see the difference between a mouth, a hand, a vagina, or an anus ( though we'd be careful with the pearl 2 since it doesn't have a stopper). Meaning that you can partake in BJs, handjobs and so forth from any distance as well!
The only thing this combo can't do is have the Launch control the Teledildos back. ( More on devices that can do exactly that below! )The Pearl 2 is their basic model and the Fuse comes with a clitoral stimulator attached.
These devices can control the motions of the Fleshlight Launch, the Onyx 1 & 2, as well as the Titan motorized strokers with the pressure & movements provided by your very own love canals.
And if your partner prefers internal stimulation ( or clitoral ) the motions can also be replicated as vibrations on other Pearl 2 or Fuse toys as well.
There's also a second solo mode called the "touch mode". In this mode, the deeper you penetrate the stronger and more widespread the vibrations will become. It also comes with traditional toy control, with different strengths and patterns you can cycle through with buttons on the handle.The Launch is an automatic masturbator for the person on the receiving end.
The Pearl 2 and the Fuse were originally meant to be paired with the Onyx & Titan devices.
And while they're alright and sports some impressive technology, it's usually not enough to bring men to climax all by itself. And it's honestly nothing remotely close to real sex.
Thankfully, the Launch changed all that.
Basically, it's meant to hold a Fleshlight and does all the motions for you.
It is compatible with any of the classic Fleshlights, so that gives you plenty of choices to pick from. They offer gender-neutral models as well as replicas of any orifices you can normally have sex with.
The launch also has a ton of solo capabilities, so If you'd like more information on what can be done, take a look at our original Launch review.
Of course, if you'd rather have the stroker control the motions on the dildo instead, these won't do it. But one of the next entries will so keep on reading!
Connected Sex Machines
We've already gone through some of the best sex machines around, but what if you want to hand over the controls to your favorite human?
Well, these machines will let you connect with them like never before. These long distance relationship sex toys also double as some of the best fuck machines available today! So you will definitely get a lot of bang for your buck ( get it? ).
In this entry we'll cover two great connected sex machines, one being the saddle style Cowgirl, and the other being the excellent Shockspots.
The Cowgirl is a Saddle style fuck machine.
It provides extremely powerful vibrations as well as internal or external rotations depending on the extension you are using. It's also the only device of its kind to provide vibration patterns.
It can be either remote or App-Controlled from any distance and comes covered in beautiful and durable Vegan Leather. This coupled with the electric guitar style jacks used to connect this machine is reminiscent of the classiest guitar amps.
This powerful long distance sex toy is definitely not for the faint of the heart and should only be used by the most hardened power queens and kings. So if you or your lover is the type to come out of a Magic Wand session thinking they could use more power, this is the toy for you.
And of course, if you guys are just into forced orgasms and/or being overwhelmed like there's no tomorrow, this could be a pretty good fit as well.
The Shockspots are simply the best sex machines available today.
They outperform and have more features than any other machine money can buy.
These great machines also can be controlled via a PC from any distance, local remote control, or even with your partner's Fleshlight with the V-Stroker Attachment!
Of course, in case your lover goes rogue on you, you still have full control over stroke depth and you can stop the machine at any time with the included remote start button.
Shockspot is currently working hard on bringing new features to their machines, and I wouldn't be surprised if Android & iOS control were on the horizon!
But of course, if these are a bit rich for your blood, traditional fuck machines could still bring tremendous value to your LDR with a much smaller investment on your end!
Bonus long distance relationship sex toys & tools
Of course, not all great long distance relationship sex toys come from the wonderful world of teledildonics.
And if one of the people in your dynamic duo happens to have a penis, you might be happy to know that you can now have a spare!
You heard me right, the Clone-A-Willy kits will allow you to make a silicone copy of your significant other's penis.
This way you'll never have to do without it, no matter how far the original might be!
These DIY dildo kits come in multiple colors, ranging from natural skin tones to more colorful options. There's also a half-decent vibrator bundled with the kits, though it can be quite underwhelming. It's completely optional to insert it in the finished product, so you always have the option to forgo that step entirely.
And if you're feeling really innovative, nothing stops you from using a Vac-U-Lock adaptor instead of the included vibrator during the curing process. Which will make your dick replica compatible with your Shockspot sex machine ( or almost any other sex machine really )!
The molding process can be pretty easy to mess up though, so head on over to our DIY dildo article for a more in-depth how-to guide. There are quite a few helpful tips included that don't come with the original instructions, so it's definitely worth a look!
We only wish they made a usable female version, though the logistics of this might be a bit complicated. But we can dream, can we?
BCC950 Webcam by Logitech
Almost anyone who's given a sex show to their partner knows this struggle:
You lay down on your bed, all splayed out and ready for action and, as you're about to start, you notice your bits are just outside of the shot. You get back up, readjust your laptop camera and now your face is completely cut off. Do this long enough and you'll go from hot and bothered to just bothered.
And don't even get me started with the limited range a phone camera gives you. A method that leaves you with only one arm to get down to business to make matters even worse!
If only you could remotely control your webcam so it's always on you no matter where you go.
Well thanks to PTZ ( Pan-Tilt-Zoom ) cameras, this is a possibility.
Originally made for conference rooms, there's no reason they shouldn't work for your own sexy board meetings. And while most models start at 500$ dollars up to thousands, you can easily get this model for less than 200$.
Looking like an adorable Star Wars droid, this remote-controlled camera features 1080p HD video quality that runs at a smooth 30 fps.
It's plug-and-play, has 180 degrees of pan, tilt, and zoom and a precise auto-focus.
This camera also comes equipped with a high-quality, noise-canceling mic and speaker. A nice addition if you're not already geared up in that department. We also love that you can extend the height of the camera with the included extension.
So never again will you get up to correct your angles only to notice that your bits are still out of the frame the second you sit back down!