The 10 Best Lesbian Toys & Strap-Ons for Couples

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Intro

Ladies that can't get enough of ladies know that finding the perfect couples toys is like trying to tap dance through a minefield.
This is why we put together this handy little guide to help you find the best lesbian toys the world has to offer.

Now keep in mind that a majority of the entries in this article assume that at least one of you two enjoys penetration.
We understand that it isn't always the case but we've already covered external toys plenty in the past.
So if that's your shtick, you should take a look at our clit toys as well as our wand guide!

We'll also talk a lot about strap-ons in this article but not so much about strap-on compatible dildos.
So make sure to read our best unrealistic dildos list to better equip yourself for action.
And for the interested, we also have pretty extensive realistic and large dildo lists as well.


Also, make sure to see our guide on what lubes to use as well as how to clean your toys to avoid any complications.


That being said, here’s our top 10 list of best lesbian toys and harnesses for couples, not necessarily from worst to best, because everyone’s needs and budgets are different.

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Sili Saddle

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The Sili Saddle may look like nothing, but it's a super versatile little lump of squishy silicone.
It was invented by a woman suffering from genital distress to help her achieve discomfort--free masturbation.

The resulting toy is a super soft and squishy silicone pad shaped to work harmoniously with the female anatomy.
So if direct pressure is too much for one of you during masturbation, this is a great non-penetrative toy to have.

And turns out, it can do much more than help women with sensitive bits get off.

You see, a big issue with using strap-ons is that vigorous play almost always ends with a beat up mons for the wearer. And this is where the Sili Saddle can help.
The Sili Saddle will stick to almost any dildo with a flat base providing some well deserved cushioning for your abused pubic mounds.

And If the dildo situation is a bit more complex ( like having a suction cup ), you can always secure the Sili Saddle in a pair of panties and put the strap on over the whole getup.
Of course, if you're using a G-String or a brief style strap-on, you could just secure the Sili Saddle in there without needing to use any underwear to keep it in place.

A lot of people also use the Sili Saddle for making bike riding more comfortable for the riders.
So if you're a bike riding, strap-on wielding lesbian, you really need this in your life.

Conclusion

Lesbian Couples will mostly benefit from the Sili saddle if they need cushioning during strap-on play.

But if there's one of you that is very sensitive to touch or suffering from vaginal irritations, it's a great aid for making masturbation more comfortable and pleasurable as well.

Cheapest Places to buy:

Worldwide: SheVibe

 

Budget Harness

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For lesbians who fancy Strap-On play, it's no mystery that finding a comfortable, stable and cheap harness can be a full-time job.

So for this entry, we will cover the cheapest but still valuable harnesses you can buy today.

And as always be sure to check out our dildo lists ( Non-Realistic / Realistic / Large ) to find out about the best body-safe and harness compatible dildos the world has to offer.

Vac-U-Lock Supreme Harness

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While most Vac-U-Lock compatible harnesses will only work with Vac-U-Lock toys, this one gives you the option of using the Universal O-Ring System as well.

So it gives you a ton of compatibility whether you want to use the very stable but limited Vac-U-Lock System or any other dildo with a base with the included O-Rings.

The kit comes with a Vac-U-Lock Adapter, Differently Sized O-Rings and plenty of strap-length so it can fit on bigger girls as well.
Of course, you should cut the straps to your desired length if you don't want them dangling about.

The Supreme Harness is unisex and is the most comfortable harnesses in the Vac-U-Lock collection in part due to the back support that won't dig in your skin as you thrust.

If you do decide to use Vac-U-Lock toys with the Supreme Harness, know that the beat up mons situation discussed in the Sili Saddle entry is even worse than with standard dildos. So if you go that route, the Sili Saddle is almost mandatory.

Rodeoh Harnesses

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Rodeoh makes brief-style strap-ons that are essentially a cheap alternative to the great Spareparts Tomboi Harness.

Each model comes outfitted with a stretchy adjustable O-ring, so you won't have to carry multiple rings to accommodate all your dildos.
They are also compatible with "Strapless" dildos thanks to an opening aligned with the O-Ring.
Rodeoh offers a model called the duo that is specifically made for this as well.

Just know that the Stretchy O-Rings aren't the most durable, and you might have to completely replace your harness after some time. But at such a low price, this isn't dramatic.

They also aren't as stable as the panty and brief-style harnesses from SpareParts and definitely not as stable as most traditional jockstrap or G-string style harnesses. 
They are essentially just underwear with O-Rings.

But if you're looking for a cheap brief-style harness, it doesn't get any better than this.

Tantus Harness Kits

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The harnesses included in these kits are some of the most basic harnesses on this list.

But the fact that they're bundled with beautiful non-phallic silicone toys from Tantus make these kits extremely valuable for people who are just starting out.

Tantus offers kits with straight smooth dildos as well as models with intense g-spot curves.

Just don't be fooled by the harnesses that come with a bullet vibe.
The bullet vibes themselves are rather cheap, but what's even worst is the placement of the bullet pockets.
You see, the people who made these harnesses seem to have no knowledge of the female anatomy and unless your clitoris is near your belly button, you won't get much out of these.

The harnesses are still fine by themselves once you've discarded the bullet vibes, so don't let that deter you, especially if you're looking for a great deal.

Conclusion

These are all great options if money isn't easy to come by or if you're just trying to figure out if harnesses are for you.

If these options are still too rich for your blood, you should also check out this DIY Scarf harness, which is a great option to use on the go.
Otherwise, we're big fans of the beautiful rope Harness by the great Artemisa FemmeCock ( And bookmark her blog while you're at it! ).

Cheapest Places to buy:

Supreme Harness
Worldwide: Amazon

Rodeoh Strap-Ons
U.S. & Canada: SheVibe
U.K.: UberKinky

Tantus Harness kits
Worldwide: SheVibe

 


Mid-Range Lesbian Toys

 

Fuze & Wet for Her Dildos

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If the strap-on wearer isn't too keen on penetration or just prefers clitoral stimulation in general, "strapless" dildos are probably the last thing they want to strap onto.

Well if you felt left out in this land of abundant strapless dils, you can put those emotions aside since, as always, we've got your back.

The Fuze and Wet For Her Fusion dildos are meant to rub against the wearers' clitoris as they play.
They are compatible with "strapless" / double dildo ready strap-ons like the Rodeoh, Aslan & Spareparts harnesses.

Both companies offer plenty of different sizes and colors but there are some key differences.

The Fuze Dildos have non-realistic as well as realistic options and they come with a socket for a bullet vibe ( perfect for the great Tango ) that aligns perfectly with the wearers' clitoris.

The Wet for her Fusion dildos are a more minimalistic option to the Fuze Dildos. They offer a bit fewer choices in terms of sizes and colors and they don't come with a bullet hole either.
But you will find their shape to be even less phallic than the non-realistic options from Fuze.

If you don't mind Realistic dildos, the Mustang Royale by Vixen Creations is probably the most comfortable one of the bunch. It comes in 3 realistic colors and you'll also benefit from their amazing dual density silicone.

Conclusion

These dildos are perfect options for people who would like a "Strapless" dildo alternative for strap-on wearers that prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration.

Just keep in mind that if direct and/or vigorous pressure is uncomfortable for your clitoris, you're probably better off using the Sili Saddle instead.

Cheapest Places to buy:

Fuze
Worldwide: SheVibe

Wet for her
Worldwide: SheVibe

 

Lush by Lovense

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If you're looking for an app-controlled, powerful, and versatile vaginal toy to use in public, in the bedroom or while wearing a strap-on, you will love the Lovense Lush.

The tail end of the toy is the antenna. 
So keep in mind that if the antenna is between your legs, or in your butt crack, it will be difficult for the signal to reach its target.

This great little toy can be used solo by controlling it with your own cellphone or it can be controlled from long distances when connected to the internet.
You can also grant access to a partner to control the toy over Bluetooth.
And while this is fine to use in the bedroom, in public this might become a bit problematic.

You see, Bluetooth is a bit tricky since it can't go through flesh. So if your significant other is at a weird angle or someone is in the way, you will lose contact with the toy.
A good fix to remedy this issue is to simply use the toy over 3G/4G or Wi-Fi when in public.
It's also good to allow your phones to stay connected to the Internet and Bluetooth when the screen is off. This can easily be tweaked in your phone's settings.

Otherwise, the app is pretty versatile. You can customize your vibrations and patterns, you can sync the toy to music, video chat with your partner while letting them control your toy and so on.

Another option that most won't benefit from is that this toy is compatible with most sex cam sites. This means you can trigger the Lush to vibrate to the sound of the viewer's tips. Which is a great incentive for them to finance your operation.

The big caveat to almost any wireless couples sex toys like the Lush is that and they're known to straight up not work for bigger women. So if it's the case, you're better off skipping the Lush and the next two entries altogether.

Conclusion

Strong and filled with features, the Lush wins over most other wireless egg-shaped vibes out there. This great couples toy can be used in the public, in the bedroom, and over long distances.

Of course, there might be some connectivity issues when used in public or for larger women, but this is mainly an issue with Bluetooth in general.

Cheapest Places to buy:

Worldwide: Lovense

 

We-Vibe's Ditto & Lovense's Hush

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Last but not least with wireless toys are these two excellent little plugs that are bound to be a hit with Couples who enjoy a bit of anal play.

And if you're wondering why there are two different toys in the same entry, it's because these two great wireless couples toys complement each other instead of competing for the same spot.

You see, We-Vibes Ditto is the smallest one of the bunch, so the most accessible.
And the Hush come in two sizes acting perfectly as a medium and large cousin to the Ditto.

To give you an idea, here's a picture from LSOP's blog of the Ditto compared to the smallest version of the Hush.
Ditto and hush Best butt plugWe-Vibe's Ditto is 3 inches long and 1.25 inches wide. It can be controlled with either a wireless controller or with an app on your smartphone. On the app, you can customize your vibrations and let a partner control your toy from any distance.

The vibrations are strong and rumbly and carry through the perineum thanks to its smart shape.
We-Vibes effort also comes in Purple and Navy.

Lovense's Hush comes in two sizes, one is 1.5 inches wide and the other is 1.75. Both are just short of 4 inches of insertable length.
This time there's no wireless controller included but the app works very well by itself. It can also be controlled by a second party from anywhere in the world.
Just like the Ditto, the vibrations go from smooth rumbles to intense vibrations.

Just keep in mind that both of these wireless couples toys aren't perfect. Sometimes, the wireless signals have a hard time to get through people or limbs and they're known to straight up not work for bigger men and women.
But sadly, this is an issue with most wireless couples toys so we can't really blame it on Lovense or We-Vibe.

Conclusion

These toys are perfect for private or public play and long distance relationships.
So if you're looking for strong vibrations in a wireless anal plug, both are great options.

The lack of a controller for the hush makes it a bit awkward to use while having sex though, having to bring your smartphone along.

Cheapest Places to buy:

Ditto

U.S.: SheVibe
Canada: PinkCherry
U.K.: LoveHoney

Hush

Worldwide: Lovense

 


High-End Lesbian Toys

 

Spareparts Hardwear Strap-ons

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Spareparts harnesses are the evolution of the traditional harness.
These futuristic harnesses for futuristic people are also the most comfortable and durable strap-ons you can buy today.

All models are outfitted with durable Elastic O-rings that will accommodate a large variety of dildos and they will all work with double or "strapless" dildos as well.

The material you will find on the SpareParts harnesses is extremely comfortable, breathable and the material dries almost as fast as you wet it.

And one of our favorite features is that you will find pockets on top and under the O-Ring to stash away some bullet vibes.
They are easy to trigger through the material, this way you don't have to dig in there every time you want to change speed.
So if you fancy a bit of vibration during play, you will love those handy little pockets.

There's also a fabric separating the dildos and bullets from your skin that can be opened to accommodate any "Strapless"/ Double dildos you might want to use.

The Joque is their most stable and popular model. It's a jockstrap style harness that is very stable, so perfect for vigorous play.

The brief-style Tomboi and the femme-friendly Lingerie and Theo harnesses are a bit less stable but often considered more convenient since you can simply slip them on like normal underwear without having to deal with straps or anything like that.
It's also pretty easy to just hit the town wearing them like regular underwear, always ready for action.

The Tomboi also comes with an extra 3rd pocket on the side for condoms, extra bullet batteries or the phone numbers you might gather during your nights out.

Otherwise, The Lingerie Harness can be converted from a booty panty to a more traditional underwear and comes with optional garter belts.
Let's just give the femmes out there a moment to compose themselves.

Conclusion

If you're looking for the one harness to rule them all, the SpareParts HardWear gear is pretty hard to beat.

So whether you go with the very stable Joque or their convenient underwear style harnesses, you'll be sure to go home with one of the best strap-on you can get today.

Cheapest Places to buy:

Worldwide: SheVibe

 

Aslan Harnesses

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If you're more into old-school leather strap-ons, the only ones you will ever need are the Aslan Harnesses.
They're simply some of the most comfortable and durable leather options you will ever come by.

We also love that Almost all their models can be converted from Jockstrap style to G-String style harnesses without much effort.
Want to give easy access to the good stuff? Switch to Jockstrap. 
Want a nice base to hold your "Strapless" dildos? Switch to G-String.
One harness, all sorts of possibilities.

These leather harnesses also come in all sorts of colors and we're big fans of their Prince themed purple harness.
So strap on the Purple Rain Avant dildo, put on your Raspberry beret and Get off! ( If you can't tell, Jim the Dildo Dealer is a huge Prince fan ).

On the other hand, if you're quite the minimalist, they also offer a few cheaper options like the leather Commando and the simple harness which is made Nylon straps.
They're stable but not the most comfortable harnesses you will find in their collection, so wearing some underwear under them can help.

And If you like the Idea of "Strapless" dildos but never could find the perfect fit for you, you'll love their Double Up Dildo Cuffs.
It's essentially a dildo holder for the wearer that you can attach at the bottom of your strap-on.
You can attach any dildo or buttplug with a base and enjoy some penetration of your own.

Another Attachment that is worth a whole lot of praise is their Driver Padwhich acts like a Sili Saddle that can be secured onto your harness to protect your poor mons from abuse.

Conclusion

If you're all about that old school cool or just love BDSM swag, a great leather harness is a must. 
And if you go with Aslan, you'll be sure to get the best leather strap-ons money can buy.

Cheapest Places to buy:

U.S. & Canada: SheVibe
U.K.: UberKinky

 

We-Vibe Sync

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We've seen every iteration of We-Vibe's flagship couples toy, the device that started it all.
The Sync is the 6th installment and we're glad to say they finally perfected the formula.

The Sync is made to clamp onto a woman's pubic bone.
It provides vibrations both to the clitoris and the G-Spot simultaneously.
This handy shape is great for hands-free play but it is also made to be used during penetration.
So if you like throwing strap-ons into the mix, the wearer and/or the receiver can both benefit from this toy if worn. 

It's especially useful for the gal who isn't too keen on penetration since most of the focus is on the clitoris and the G-pot without taking much vaginal real-estate. 
On the other hand, if you're all about that penetration, using dildos while wearing the Sync will make the experience even more intense.

We-Vibe 1, 2, 3, 4 and 4 plus were all pretty underwhelming in terms of vibration. Very strange since we-vibe makes the amazing rumbly tango. The sync sure went along and fixed that.
This little couples toy rumbles like it's at least twice its size.
The vibrations on the clitoris are more powerful than the ones found on the G-spot. That's a small price to pay to keep the insertable part small enough to accommodate penetration as well.

Another Issue that was common with all the previous iterations was the fit of the toy. But again, the sync aims to fix that thanks to its now fully adjustable body.

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The Sync can either be controlled with buttons directly on the device or with its handy remote.
If you wanna push its reach even further, it is also App enabled.
This means it can be controlled from any distance through the internet or over Bluetooth.

And while the sync has plenty of functions by itself, you can get even more through the app.
You can even make your own patterns quite easily as well as "syncing the Sync" to the sound of music as well.

Like other Bluetooth couples toys, if you wish to control them in public, you're better off doing it over 3G/4G or wi-fi as opposed to Bluetooth.
Also, closing your legs while sitting or being extra curvy might get in the way of the signal, so keep that in mind.

Conclusion

If you want a wireless and hands-free couples toy that vibrates powerfully on both the Clitoris and G-Spot, it doesn't get much better than this.

And this little king amongst lesbian toys is so versatile it's not even funny.
Wear it inside, outside, under your strap-on or while using toys, the choice is yours!

Cheapest Places to buy:

U.S.: SheVibe
Canada: PinkCherry
U.K.: Lovehoney

 

"Strapless"/ Double Dildos

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As you may have noticed, up to this point, every time we've written "Strapless" it was never without quotation marks.
That's because we can't stress enough that these are NOT made to be used without a strap-on.

While some really powerful kegel kung fu masters might be able to hold these only with the strength of their own vaginal walls, most of us puny humans won't be able to achieve such feats. Especially when things get wet and slippery!

This doesn't mean these toys aren't great, quite the opposite. It only means that they're victims of consistent false advertising.

The real thrill of these toys is that they provide vaginal stimulation to both the wearer and the receiver. So if you both enjoy penetration, these are well worth considering.
It's also the only type of strap-on dildos that gives such instant feedback during play.

Of course, if you don't enjoy a ton of pressure on your G-Spot, these probably won't do it for you.

Also, most of the models offered come with lackluster Bullet Vibes.
So we highly suggest investing in something like the powerful Tango by We-Vibe 
so the vibrations actually do something instead of being dampened by all that silicone.

Now that the disclaimers are out of the way, here are some of the most popular models:

Feeldoe/Realdoe by Tantus

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If you've heard about "Strapless" dildos, chances are you know about the Feeldoes & Realdoes.
All models are rather rigid, so if hard toys aren't your thing, you might have to consider the other toys below.

The Feeldoes are non-realistic and have a shiny finish that offers almost no friction during play.

On the other hand, the Realdoes are a realistic looking alternative that has a matte finish that feels soft to the touch. The matte texture will also cause more drag, so be sure to use extra lube.

Both models come in 4 sizes (being the Classic, the Slim, the Stout, & the More that is extra long) and they offer models with bullet vibes for extra stimulation. 
Just ditch the vibes and get something stronger if you want to feel anything!

Fun Factory Share & Sharevibe

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These Fun Factory toys are some of the most refined looking strapless dildos we've ever seen.
They all come with a silky smooth matte finish, so keep some extra lube close if you want to avoid drag.

Fun Factory's options are less rigid than the Feeldoes & Realdoes so it's easier to hit all sorts of different angles while going down to plow town.
This is a bit of a problem with the original Share since it has a tendency of dangling down when not supported. But it shouldn't be that much of a problem when worn with a harness.
It's also an issue that was fixed with Sharevibe's new improved shape.

One thing worth considering is that the G-Spot end for the wearer is much larger than most other "Strapless" bulbs.
So if girth is a problem for the wearer, this might not be the best option.
Otherwise, if intense G-Spot stimulation is her thing, she will feel right at home.

On the other hand, the ShareVibe is even less phallic than the Original, and has a pretty decent Vibe included that is rechargeable and submersible under water.
But most importantly is the placement of the bullet vibe hole which aligns very well with the wearers' clitoris.

The big caveat is that the bullet vibe is much larger than standard bullet toys.
So you won't be able to fit the great rumbly Tango inside of your toy if you need an upgrade.

Tango by Fuze

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The Tango has a lot in common with the Sharevibe, It has a similar shape and Bullet placement ( no bullet included this time ) but this time the G-Spot Bulb is much smaller, so it is perfect for a wearer who isn't all about that girth.

But most importantly, as opposed to the Sharevibe, it is compatible with regular bullets as well as the amazing Tango Vibe... which probably explains the name of this great double dildo, now that we think about it.

It's also not too rigid and not too soft, so if one of you prefers hard and the other soft, this is the perfect compromise.
And compromise is at the center of every healthy relationship!

Vixen Creations' Nexus

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Regular readers know we're suckers for Vixen Creations' toys and these are no exception.

They are the squishiest double dildos on this list.
This means you can hit all sorts of crazy positions without straining your bits too much and the middle of the toy acts a bit like a Sili Saddle, preventing mons and tailbones to collide in a catastrophic fashion.

The insertable end meant for the wearer is also slimmer than any other G-Spot Bulbs on this entry.

They come in 3 different sizes the first two being the Unrealistic Junior and Senior.
The last size is the Peacemaker which sports a realistic and large 2-inch dildo on the receiving end. This large realistic option also comes in Caramel, Vanilla, and Chocolate.
So if you guys dig big toys, well, you're welcome.

Conclusion

While these toys aren't really meant to be used without strap-ons, they are solid options for couples that both enjoy penetration.

If you were looking for more traditional double-ended dildos, the Dorcel ( 16 inches ) and the Ruse by Blush ( 18 inches ) are some of the only body-safe options we're aware of.
Otherwise, the double dildo connector for Vac-U-Lock toys is another great option if you want to customize each other's ends to your liking.

Cheapest Places to buy:

Feeldoe/Realdoe
Worldwide: Tantus

Share/Sharevibe
U.S. & Canada: SheVibe
U.K.: LoveHoney

Tango
Worldwide: SheVibe

Nexus
Worldwide: SheVibe

 

Liberator

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These ones aren't technically toys for couples, but it is the type of thing that once you get one, you wonder where it's been all your life.

Basically, these are pillows, throws and furniture built for sexual intercourse.
All models are very easily washed. Their covers are removable and machine washable, so no need to change the entire set of sheets every time things get a bit intense.

Another great advantage is that is that they also make a lot of other positions easier and less strenuous. So now you can simply enjoy the ride and stop building pillow forts between positions.

They make ramps and wedges made to align any strap-on wielding gal's appendage directly onto her significant other's G-Spot.
And the angle provided will work whether you're on your back or on your belly.

If you want to keep things simple, their super soft, absorbent and waterproof throws are a life saver. They'll also work against whatever fluids you throw at them, may it be lube or your own. You'll also love that they come in multiple colors and sizes.

Want to include dildosg-spot toys, and rabbit vibes during play?
If they don't have suction cups, the Bonbon & the Wing are perfect for that. Whether you just want to watch the action or live up some threesome fantasies without including other people in the mix, these pillows will hold your toys in place without a hitch.

Otherwise, if you're a fan of the unbelievable strength of the Magic Wand,
you will know that it's difficult to handle it during intercourse.
Liberator's Axis and Wanda aim to fix that, giving you a hands-free and comfortable experience during sex or solo play.

Conclusion

Whether you want to use sex toys or not, Sex just feels so much better when things are aligned properly and Liberator will make sure that it's the case every time.

Cheapest Place to buy:

U.S. & Canada: SheVibe
U.K.: LoveHoney
Worldwide: Liberator

Sadly for Europeans, there's much more choice over at She-Vibe, but expect extra import and shipping fees if you go that route.
If you still can't find the colors & choices you're looking for, the rest can easily be found on their official site.

Author Details
Founder & Editor Tabooless

Jimmy is a veteran sex shop worker and currently a freelance illustrator & head honcho at Tabooless.net.

In his spare time, he enjoys traveling, breakfast for every meal, and shooting the shit with his kitty cat.

His goal is to create a better world by making sure no naughty bits are left behind.

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